Wow, I'm nearly in tears - Conversation with Desiree

My2Beauties wrote: We were text messaging, last night with the whole ordeal we found out about Staci, we saw Desiree and she said that Staci was on her way with her husband to pick Desiree up and Desiree also found out that her "boyfriend" may have "cheated" on her (I use " " because I hate the term boyfriend for my 12 yo stepdaughter and "cheated" because he asked another girl out or something ) Anyways. Here goes the conversation:

M = Me D = Des

M: Hey u doing ok today? How did last night go?
D: I am doin ok he i don't think he cheated at all (I got confused bcuz she put he then i, so I asked this question)
M: U don't think he cheated then? Or he doesn't think he cheated? Did ur mom come with niles last night? (ur is your in text message slang and niles is her husband)
D:I don't think he cheated and yes she did
M: Oh well i'm glad he didn't. If he ever does let me know and i'll hurt him. As far as niles u know how i feel but ur mom is grown and can make her own decisions. Hopefully he changes. Ur dad and i r always here 4 u.
D:I know I am bout to move in wit u
M:Well that's fine with us, i'd love 2 have u there? Does ur mom know u feel that way? I know you've said stuff about it but does she know ur serious?
D: I don't know but i am going to tell her
M: Ok for what it's worth i hope it changes her mind des let us know
D: I will be coming when I can get my stuff
M: ok

My heart aches for her!

Calimama replied:

jcc64 replied: LeaAnn- I'm a little confused. Are you sad because she's going through a rough time?

lisar replied: Awww.... Give that girl lots of hugs for me.

My2Beauties replied:
Yes I'm sad for Desiree because she feels that her mom is choosing her husband over her. Desiree doesn't want to live with him and staci is thinking about going back with him. It was in my other thread.

Anthony275 replied: if she does move in with you, will she go to the same school?

Kaitlin'smom replied: to both of you. does Staci really think he is going to change?

My2Beauties replied:
Yes, she goes to a traditional school, she had to apply to get in, write an essay, transcripts sent etc...so address doesn't matter with her school

My2Beauties replied:
I dont' know, Staci isn't returning mine or Brian's phone calls. I haven't even called her to talk to her about that, unless she brought it up, I wasn't going to go there. I guess she does if she is getting back with him. All this is what Desiree is saying right now, but my MIL did see Staci pick Desiree up from her house last night and he was with her All that smack she talked about hating him and never going back I thought she was stronger than that.

Kaitlin'smom replied: so he went to jail right? was there charges pressed?

I am sorry most people who abuse DONT cange and if they do its certinally not a fast process. Its sad, she is an adult and can do what she wants I just wish more woudl stop and think of the big picture and who all it effects.

jcc64 replied: OK, I get it now. My bff is 40, and her mom remarried when she was Desiree's age. My friend hated, and still hates, her mom's new husband, and sadly, it is clear even to me that her mom has chosen him over her own dd. It's powerful stuff, and really really hurtful from a child's perspective, to know that a man comes first. Really bad message to get. I'm sorry, Lea Ann!

A&A'smommy replied: Poor Desiree....

MommyToAshley replied:

luvmykids replied: What a mess, all the way around...I'm sure Staci is avoiding you and Brian b/c there is a part of her that is embarrassed and doesn't want to take the chance that you guys will let her have it for going back. On the other hand, like Jeanne said, what a sad message to send to Desiree

Kirstenmumof3 replied:

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm so sorry, LeaAnn. You guys have so much stress right now and I know you are worried sick about Desiree. It's such a sad situation. I know you hurt for Staci as well. She has a little boy, too doesn't she? I hope it all works out. Desiree and Staci are both lucky to have you. I'm glad you are there for them both. They need you right now.

Cece00 replied: Poor girl.

So when will she move in with you guys?

MoonMama replied: This is just so heartbreaking poor Des. I'm so glad she has you guys.