Wow, I'm surprised - and confused

5littleladies wrote: I've always been told that girls are easier when they are young and boys are easier in the teenage years. Jeanne's post about Corey has made me wonder and made me think. I've been terrified-I mean petrified-that this baby will be a boy. I don't know what to do with a boy, how to bond with a boy, how to raise a boy, etc., and I've just been hoping that this baby will be a girl so I will be dealing with something familiar. But everyone's comments about boys being so much easier than girls has made me confused. Now I'm afraid to have either one. Help!!

MomToMany replied: I don't think one is easier than the other. Raising ANY child is hard work! No matter what it is, you will fall in love with him or her, and instinctively know what to do.

jcc64 replied: Boys just seem less emotionally complicated to me. (no offense to the guys here- just a personal observation). But when it comes to the physical energy required to keep them safe, boys have their own special "requirements". Noah's got more scars than I care to admit. In my own particular case, I'm more comfortable around males b/c I had no sisters growing up and was a tomboy. Even in college, had many more male roommates than female.
I think Corey's here to teach me how to get along with my own kind!

Des replied: girl or boy - i think we're all in for a rough ride!!!
but we love em anyway!!

DVFlyer replied: It's kind of funny. Our boy is due next month and when we found out it was a boy, I got pretty scared; much more than with our daughter. The pressure of being a role model, someone to look up to, example setter, etc was, all of a sudden, very real and very strong.

With our daughter, I guess I always feel like Mom can make things right because she's a girl or something.

Guess men and women are not all that different in this regard.

redchief replied:
None taken... You're absolutely right. That's true of boys young and old. In our experience, the boys are more likely to be stubborn and argumentative as youngsters. That won't change much as they age. Our girls tended to be quieter and would often hold in feelings. We got really good and digging into that, since it was obvious that both girls at times were holding in feelings they ought not.

As the girls aged, they became more emotional and, as jcc put it, much more complicated. I always know when the boys are upset about something. I don't always know about the girls and I get the feeling that even though I think I know what's going on, I don't have a clue. I'm still learning how to deal with them.

Scars? Erin wins, hands down. Gr33n3y3z and I think she should have been a boy... until the subject of boys and relationships comes up... Then she is ALL female (no offense meant toward the women here )

mom21kid2dogs replied: My mom had 6 kids and has always said she'd raise the 4 boys all over again but not the girls . Guess that doesn't speak too well for my sister & I . She said boys are much less moody and much less mouthy.

I had the opposite concern when I was pregnant! I remember being in shock after the ultrasound when they said Olivia was a girl. I thought for sure she was a boy. I was raised with boys, knew "boys" well and wasn't really sure what the heck I was gonna do with a girl! Now I can't imagine *what* I was thinking!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
OMG! Jeanne I could have written this post!!! I feel exactly the same way!

Jennifer just trust me on this one....If you have a boy your life will never be the same! I can't even begin to describe how much I love my little boy and I had the same fears as you have now. I had no idea what I would do with a boy. I know I had brothers (that was the main reason I didn't want a boy But, after having Maddie and everything being Girly, I just didn't know what to do with a boy!) With that being said, he stole my heart the minute I laid eyes on him and I've never been the same. He was a baby and needed my care and my love. It was apparent how much he already adored me. Just remember if you have a boy, he will still be a baby and a baby (whether boy or girl) still needs the same care. They really aren't that different. Gradually you will notice the differences in them, but it is a lot of fun watching them grow and learn. Boys amaze me and I have a first hand look at how they work and what makes them tick. Not only that, but I have the opportunity to raise a perfect gentleman.

What amazed me the most about Ethan was how much he loved me from the beginning. Everything about him reminds me of Scotty. He looks like him, acts like him and is just so incredibly sweet. You know, all my life I have tried to get boys to pay attention to me and love me just for being me. And here I was holding a little boy in my arms that did just that. I didn't have to do anything but love him back.

A&A'smommy replied: awww hun either way you will be just fine you are such a wonderful mommy!! ((((HUGS))))

~Roo'sMama~ replied: So what you're saying is... you're doomed either way.
Lol just kidding. I'm sure that if you have a boy it won't seem like such a big deal once he's actually here. Whatever differences there would be you'll just figure them out as they come. After all God only makes us live one day at a time!

ediep replied: any baby, boy or girl, would be lucky to have you for a mommy!

DansMom replied: I was scared to have a boy too. I understand girls, and I thought I could bond much better with a girl. I think of teen boys as aliens really---they are so weird and their interests are not anything I can connect to. However, having a boy has been just fine, and has been an opportunity for me to see things about human nature, gender differences, etc. I have only sisters, and it's not as bizarre as I thought it would be to raise a boy. It's going to be fine... and I think you are having a boy!! So get ready!

iluvmysweetiepies replied: I haven't had any experience with boys either, but I'm sure either way you'll be fine!

nashsmommy replied: A couple of weeks ago I was having lunch with my dad......We got on the subject about boys & girls. I have a 7 year old brother by his second wife (ex-wife now...lol) He told me he would rather raise my brother a dozen times over than raise me again.. .

Now MY little boy Nash is a momma's boy.......I was afraid when I found out we were having a boy because...well......lol......what am I supposed to do with a boy........I'm a woman. I was wrong.

I've heard horror stories about raising boys.......I shouldn't have listened.....It would have made my pregnancy alot less stressful.......lmao..

Don't worry....If its a boy......It will all be natural to you........TRUST ME!!

loveydad replied:
Here's the secret- neither is harder.

I thought girls would be easy but that little girl gives mea run for my money every day and Kelton's relatively good if he's not with his brother lol. and clara's very calm but Carter's pretty active - i have to tell you it just varies with each child.

5littleladies replied: Thanks for the replies everyone! I guess I should just calm down and trust that I will be able to handle whatever God sends my way. I know I will adjust to either one-boys just scare me a bit, simply because they are foreign to me. I'm excited either way though. You'd think I'd be more worried about having 4 kids than what the sex of the baby is.

loveydad replied:
That tomboy phase is pretty common. Henry's girlfreind is totally boy - but she dates Henry and shes' allllll girl about that LOL. Plus she's had two kids. That makes a girl I think.

Remember when we were young guys? The horrid things we did to ourselves and each other!? *laughing*