Wow New Year big change at my house - Not the best news

TANNER'S MOM wrote: Well I have mentioned a few times the stress at my work. I haven't been on much lately because I have been working so hard. Well David my boss ran the company and I was his assistant and the manager of A/P and A/. Well 2 weeks ago the owner of the company, who was not involved in the company for the last 3 years decided that David had misused company funds for personal things.. they had a big blow out and almost came to blows. Well David walked at and told them to kiss his butt. Well don't get me wrong.. he wasn't always the perfect boss but he was fair 90 % of the time with me. We worked together for a long time. Well the owner of the company asked me to stay.. told me about the huge raise I would be getting.. I was basically asked to take over David's job. I wasn't happy with the change but thought if it made a change for my family then I would make the best of it.

Well like I said I hadn't worked with Dennis the owner in 3 years I forgot what an SOB and jerk he was. He is a now and right now..my way or the highway man. No reasoning and he thinks he knows more then he does. Last week he cussed me in front of a room full of people.. and I cried I took it and I told myself and Randy that I wouldn't take another cussing from him. He called me names and talked down to me in front of a bunch of men..me being the only woman in the room.

Well jump to Friday. He walked in..announced he was hungover and didn't sleep the night before. He wanted reports and wanted to know how many trucks we needed to pay all this stuff. So, I gave him what he asked for. When he realized the dollar amount he flipped. Told me I didn't have it set right..was F this and F that.. screaming at me. He had his spoon in his hand from stirring his coffee he started hitting my desk and the computer screen and yelling do it right F'n now.. you work for me you will do what I say when I F'n say it.. on and now. Told me to get out of my F'n chair he would do it himself.. I said since you know how it all.. there it is. I put my purse on my shoulder and walked out of my secure job.

I am just beside myself. I didn't make the best money in the world..but I made good money.. over 3o0 and less than 40 grand a year.. I am just beside my self with money worries. But I know that I can't work for someone who doesn't respect me or the work I do and the time I invest for him. I have no respect for him as a man either. I am sorry but I see the company going down hill.

Everyone please pray that I will find something suitable soon. I am going to work on my resume and get started on the job search on Tues when the kids go back to school..

Mean time I am going to a party tonight and tomorrow night.. I will drink that stupid Jack butt off my mind..and he can kiss mine...lolol

mom2my2cuties replied: I think you did the right thing. Also, Arkansas has employment laws against this kind of behavior. (Went through something similar with my little sister a few years ago) I would check into them and they will pay you unemployment benifits because he more or less forced you out of that position.

Sorry you had to go through all of this, the guy sounds like a real piece of work.

TANNER'S MOM replied:
Well I am going Wed morning to Arkansas Work Force to see what my options are.

I hope it all works out.

moped replied: O Mel - i am so sorry to hear this, but I think you did the right thing - I know you did.........

You will find something soon........

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My3LilMonkeys replied: I'm sorry to hear that - but you most definately did the right thing - you are too good to be treated like that!

blue72 replied: You did the right thing. No one deserves to be treated like that at work. Best of luck to you and your family.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: You don't deserve to be treated that way. I don't think a boss should cuss at all...not at anyone and not in the office AT ALL! Totally uncalled for and disrespectful. So you totally did the right thing and you of course will find something better...don't worry Mel.

sparkys2boys replied: Oh girl, that's to bad I hope that you find something very quickly. No way should anyone speak to you like that, good for you for not letting him walk all over you. He sounds like a real jerk that is trying to act macho when in fact he probaly knows way less about his company then he relizes. I just sorta went through the same situation 3 weeks before xmas, so I know how you feel.

mckayleesmom replied: Sounds like somebody needs anger management

amymom replied: Oh Mel, You did the right thing. I am very proud that you stood up for yourself like that. Good Luck in finding a job. Prayers are coming your way. You will find something better and in the mean time enjoy your family and job search.

b&bsmom replied: things happen for a reason, I had it happen to me, and it made my stress go way down, and made me healthier for my family. I know you will find something better and I hope it comes soon. KUP Good Luck and lots of hugs!!!!!

jcc64 replied: Awww, I'm so sorry, Mel. I know very well how difficult it is to work for someone that has little or no respect for you as a human being. It's a constant tug of war between my pride and my obligation to my family and which one is more compelling fluctuates on any given day. In the long run, it will more than likely be a good move for you under the circumstances, but in the short term, I'm sure the insecurity and uncertainty will be un-nerving. Best of luck and peace of mind to you in your search for something better- you certainly deserve it.

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry Mel. I think you did the right thing though. No one needs to be treated like that. Best of luck finding something else. I'm having the same troubles right now

luvmykids replied: I can't use the words I want so instead.

MoonMama replied:
...best of luck sweetie it will all work out for the better.

redchief replied: Sorry about the job, Mel. In my opinion your self respect isn't for sale. I think you did the right thing. Let him run his F'n company right into the ground. What's your old boss up to now (the one who was fair)?

grapfruit replied: Holy Crap Mel , you totally did the right thing. The stress and strain that would have put on your health. Not worth $100K a year. You will find something soon. Everything happens for a reason...

amynicole21 replied: Wow! I can't believe someone would act that way I work with some idiots, but never anything like this I am SURE that you will land on your feet. It's best to start looking for a job first thing in the New Year also - there are more funds available for hiring since most companys have a Jan - Dec fiscal year. Good luck sweetie, and enjoy yourself tonight!

Kaitlin'smom replied: Oh Mel I am sooo sorry. I had a client cuss me out once and my boss told me I am to NEVER take that kinds of treatment and if anyone starts I am to simply say I dont stand for that kind of talk theis conversation is over and hang up or walk away. You did the RIGHT thing, no one I dont care man or woman deserves to be treated like that. What a true SOB. I will be thinking of you. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

Gage'sMom replied: I am really sorry. It sucks that people can be that way! You definatly made the right decision.

TANNER'S MOM replied:
Well I contacted him and told him what happened. We both agreed to be there for each other... so we don't waste the last 4 years without a good job recommendation. He agreed to be my reference and I agreed to the same for him. He is going to be emailing me a letter of recommendation also. So that helps.

I think I am just so scared of starting over, the job I had before this one I had for 7 years until I was laid off. it's hard to start over but I will have a decent resume.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Thank you everyone for your support.. I am going to need it.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
anytime and I mean that.

Boys r us replied: Oh Good Lord Mel!! I am so glad that you stood up for yourself even though it means BIG worries for you!!!

I will be thinking of you and I pray that the perfect job lands right inyour lap babe!!

jem0622 replied: I am so sorry that this happened to you, but know that everything happens for a reason...and you did the right thing for sure!

lisar replied: You did the right thing. I am the boss where I work and I would never do that to one of my employees. NEVER... And when I do need to say something to them in a stern voice it is ALWAYS behind a closed door where no one else is. I treat them as the way I want to be treated. You did the right thing. I hope you find something quick and less stressful.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Mel I am so sorry I missed this. Abbie just told me all about it! I think you did the right thing, but I'm sorry you were forced to leave a job that you knew so well. I know firsthand how stressful it is to be out of work or to have a provider out of work I should say. I hope you find something soon. I'm thinking about you. Please let me know if there is anything you need.

coasterqueen replied: Mel,

I think you did the right thing too. I know how stressful it can be, believe me. I quit my job a month after I signed our mortgage for the house we built. We had no idea how we'd make the payments, but my boss was verbally abusive and it took a huge toll on me. I also left right before Thanksgiving, bad timing. Two weeks later I had another job making $9,000 more than the other job plus LOTS more other benefits. Things happen for a reason and I believe something of greatness will come your way like it did for me.