apparently mom's don't count....

kimberley wrote: Disclaimer: this is a long vent. you don't have to read it, i just have to get it all out.


i have no idea what kind of curse is on me this week, but i have had the post office lady rudely hang up on me, the lab at the dr's office ignore me then give me attitude and now the school apparently thinks they know what is best for my son no matter what I say!

i got a call shortly after noon from Jacob saying he had a headache and wanted to come home. Jamie was gone and i didn't get the stroller out of the trunk so i told him to tell the secretary to call him a cab to bring him home. i call 2 more times wondering where he is because it is a 3 min drive from the school. the student answering tells me the secretary is on lunch so i ask Jacob if they called a cab and he said no. that they told him he had to wait until his brother and grandma got back from their trip around 1ish. i was a little irritated and told him to find any teacher in the office and tell them I said to send him home now in a cab. didn't happen. finally talked to the secretary at 1pm and asked her why Jacob hasn't been sent home yet and she said they decided it would be better to wait for grandma! she actually argued with me about it until she knew i was about to blow a gasket and finally said okay i will call a taxi now. another 15 minutes go by and up pulls the cab with grandma and boys! i was livid! i phoned her back and told her that I am his mother and in future when I say send him home, it better be done or I will go directly to the school board! she then starts with the myriad of excuses saying she didn't know because she didn't talk to me and i should have asked for her. I DID! the student answering said she was gone for lunch! i am not psychic and know she is in the staff lounge. anyways, Jacob told me when he got home that he tried to speak to a teacher in the staff lounge when i told him to call a cab the second time and they wouldn't let him in!!!! poor kid is finally lying down resting.

then his grandma said she wants to take the boys to the zoo tomorrow but if he is still feeling bad i don't want him to go. of course she doesn't understand this. also, Jacob and I had a long talk a few nights ago and he expressed to me that he is feeling a little left out and he wants a little more time with me. so we agreed to resume our "date" day on saturdays. when he was little we always took one afternoon and had lunch in a local diner and went for a walk or to the park just the two of us because his brother was just so difficult and Jacob was always being compromised by his dad. he was a trooper about it though. always understanding and giving in so his brother wouldn't have a fit. but since Jade has been here we kind of stopped. anyways, she wants to take them first thing in the morning and told him he can do date day when she is gone. well the tears started welling up in his eyes and i felt awful. why is it everyone else's needs come before Jacob? and why is he so understanding about it? i am furious! but i don't know what to do. i have had so many wars with my ex about his mother it is just futile. she actually complained to him that i am holding back her relationship with the boys because i won't send them to New Jersey alone or let her take them to Vegas or Prague. yes they know her but not enough to stay long periods of time with her and i know she can't handle them. she rarely feeds them meals (just snacks), she gets easily frustrated when they fight or act up and threatens that she won't come back or she will leave. she acts like they are her kids and i am kidnapping them away from her. she is such a nut job!!!

ok, i am done. i feel better. gonna go hug my babies now.

jen replied: (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) Kimberley! I am sorry you had to go through all of that! jacob sounds like such a sweet guy! Tell grandma to go jump off a bridge and keep your date with him, it will mean so much more to him to be with you especially after your talk, KWIM??

I was just saying the other day to someone that being a full time Mommy is going to TOTALLY change my life, and those that think I will have it easier because I will be out of the corporate loop can Kiss my You know what!! I would write the school a letter stating the next time they don't have your son's BEST interest (YOU) at heart they will be dealing with the consequences of the higher authorities, JUST my opinion!

I am glad everything settled down and I hope your Weekend is BETTER than you week!

DansMom replied: Uggh!! Here are some hugs

Kaitlin'smom replied: I hope you have a better weekend!

MommyToAshley replied: (((HUGS))) I am sorry you had to deal with all of that.

I have to agree that you should keep your date with Jacob. It will show him that he is more important and matters more, even more than what grandma thinks. I think you already know that just because he is so understanding doesn't mean that he still doesn't crave your attention. You are such a good Mom and so in tune with your kids.... I say do what your gut tells you.

kit_kats_mom replied: I'm sorry you are having such a crappy week. Go beat up a pillow and scream your head off for a few seconds...close the door so you don't scare the kids though

Or maybe you could have a pillow fight with them and incorporate a screaming match in there too. The boys would probably think it's fun. It sounds like you need to vent some steam.

The only thing I can say about the cab thing is that maybe it was a safety thing. I don't know if a school in the states would let someone besides the approved caregivers to pick a child up. Not that the stupid lady couldn't have explained it if that was the case though.

Here's a hearty *%*%*%*%* Smack in the face *%*%*%*%* to anyone else who ticks you off this week. Tell 'em it's from Cary and they better look out. LOL

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I wanted to send hugs your way! I know how difficult it is to be the parent of 3 and to try to have time for everyone! Keep the date with him and tell his grandmother to just take James!

kimberley replied: LOL Cary! you crack me up. thanks... i needed that. it wasn't a safety issue since they do it all the time at the school. my pillow is looking really good right now

the principal called me not long ago and reamed me out for getting mad at the secretary . there is no end to this chaos. she basically told me it was my fault for not asking Jacob to put her on the phone and Jacob's fault for not telling me that she offered to talk to me. of course! everyone's fault but theirs. i really shouldn't be surprised. anyways, he is feeling better after he ate and rested and i think i am going to take a cat nap and hopefully feel calm when i get up. grandma took them to the park. of course not the park they wanted to go to, one she hasn't been to in a while that has nothing more than grass fields in the winter whatever. nap time.

thanks for all the hugs ladies. it means a lot.

amynicole21 replied: Ick. What a crappy day The people at the school sound like jerks and idiots. Bad combo I'm sorry you had to deal with people like that today.

A&A'smommy replied: GRRRR why do OTHER people think THEY know what is best for OTHER peoples children! (((BIG HUGS))) I hope that they start to listen to you, I just don't understand why someone would act so so... grrr that just makes me SOO mad! I'm so sorry you had to deal with this! ((((BIG HUGS))) again hehe

coasterqueen replied: Sorry you had such a bad week Kimberley I hope you have a better one :grouphug;

CantWait replied: to the school, what were they thinking. Sometimes it makes me wonder. I'm sorry you're having such a horrible week. I hope things get better. Hugs to you