bad news

Jackie012007 wrote: my bean has no heartbeat I just can't believe it - I let myself get so excited and now there is nothing there. I feel so stupid because what right to I have to be sad, this wasn't planned anyways... but I'm completely devastated.

mckayleesmom replied: Im so sorry sweetie.....I know exactly what you are feeling.....You get excited and dream and then its all taken away. It does get easier, but I won't like and say it will go away. Im a strong believer in bodies knowing when they can't handle something, but it doesn't make it any less upsetting and sad. Tons of thoughts and prayers are with you. If you need someone to talk to ...let me know.

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry.

my2monkeyboys replied: Planned or not, things like this can hurt so much. Lots of prayers and hugs...

PrairieMom replied: I am so sorry.

msoulz replied: Oh, I completely understand where you are . I wish you peace.

Nina J replied: I'm so sorry. You have every right to be sad, don't think you don't because even if the baby wasn't planned you still loved it

Cece00 replied: How far along are you? Is there any chance its too early to see a hb??

I'm sorry.

BabyOwen427 replied: I'm so sorry.

HuskerMom replied: I am so sorry.

Miranda1127 replied: i am soo sorry. take it easy and i wish you the best

MoonMama replied: Oh honey, I know all too well the feeling! I am so sorry! Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

sparkys2boys replied: Oh I am so sorry hun. Planned or not you are a mother and love no matter what. Try and get some rest and we are all here for you if you need to talk.

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mom21kid2dogs replied: So sorry, sweetie

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh Jackie, I'm so sorry. I know how painful it is. I'm so sorry you're going through this!

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry.

Jackie012007 replied: I was measuring around 7 weeks. It's just like what happened with Carly - I didn't realize how far along I was, and wasn't able to get a BFP until more than 2 weeks after my missed period. Same instance here. I was given the option of either having a d&c, m/c naturally or they can prescribe a medicine that speeds up the m/c process. I think I have decided to let it happen naturally.

I've just been focusing on Carly - I'm so thankful at least I have her. I got way too excited without confirmation, that will definitely never happen again. I guess I just figured that since I had Carly and she was healthy, this pregnancy would be no different.

The OB said everything looks okay, and didn't think it had anything to do with me getting pregnant so soon after a m/c - I guess sometimes these things just happen. It just sucks - but then I think of people who had to go through an entire pregnancy only to lose their completely formed baby... then what has happened doesn't seem as awful, and I'm so lucky to have a beautiful healthy baby girl. I'm most glad I didn't tell anyone other than my boards and DF - not sure if I should tell family or just move on and not say anything. I'm really confused right now, I guess.

Thanks for the support you guys

BAC'sMom replied: I am sorry Jackie. I am here for you when you get ready to talk

Momof3inMe replied: I am here for you.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry to hear this! My thoughts and prayers will be with you!

Old Mom Hubbard replied: So sad to hear this

jacobsmama replied: I'm so sorry to hear this....hang in there and we are all here to support you.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
I had a natural m/c - I didn't want a d&c because I felt that it would be invasive and just make it all that much more traumatic. I would have done it or taken the drugs as a last resort, but thankfully I didn't need to do either.

Having Andrew when I was going through that was a huge help. Give Carly lots of hugs! It will get better... it just takes time. My m/c was one year ago next week and even though I'll always miss my baby and I still cry about it sometimes, I'm ok. We had already told everyone we knew that I was pg, but I was glad that people knew because that way I had so much support from my friends and people at church. Do whatever you feel like will be the best for you. I'm so sorry again that you're going through this. No matter what the circumstances or how far along you were, I know it hurts.

MyBabeMaddie replied: Aww Jackie I'm so sorry, Hang in there

boyohboyohboy replied: so sorry Jackie.. I hope you are ok.
lots of hugs to carly..

Jamison'smama replied: I am so sorry.