big chance for C-section

J-rod wrote: well dr said last friday that she'd be amazed if steph can have a natural vaginal birth. said her pelvic area is angulated and not in the best way for a natural birth. its hard for them to tell how much she is dialating. so we go again this friday and gonna see if we can just schedule a C-section instead of her going thru all the natural birth stuff only to end up in surgery anyways. she is scared...hates hospitals anywyas...so she will be put under for this...so she wont freak out ebing strapped to a table. at least i can still be there with her.


anyone else had a C-section?


major things concern her is she has read if you have c-sections everytime...you can only have 3 kids.

moped replied: Yes I ended up having a c section after 12 hours of labour and then jacks heartrate deceased to nothing, so it was done. I was not put out totally for it - I much rather wanted to be awake when Jack was born - it was fine. The recovery time is a bit more but all in all it was fine. I would have loved a natural birth but that wasn't possible, and Jack is great, so it all worked out.

Why does she want to be totally put under for it?????

J-rod replied:
because just walking into a hospital makes her pass out...and to be strapped to a table and not be in control of herself would freak her out.....and its prolly in everyones best interest to be under. im listed in our birthing plan to be the first to hold kyan so id be holding him when she wakes up and that make her happy too imo

danahas4monkeys replied: I have 4 children and the last 3 were csections and if and when we have #5 it will be csection too. I was totally awake, I had a spinal instead of the epi and didnt feel a thing. Good luck!

Dana

moped replied: Well I am sure everything will go great!!!!!!

When is the due date????

luvmykids replied: Hugs to Steph, having your first can be a scary enough prospect in itself and then to find out it may not be as you planned is a big disappointment but c-sections are pretty common and I'm sure everyone will be fine.

J-rod replied: due august 13..... but more than likely sooner



we have told all the people that will be at the hospital so nobody freaks out hearing they taking ehr into surgery for a C-section and think something is wrong. but like i said we gonna ask about scheduling a c-section from the start if need be



also im not looking forward to the recovery time. lol im gonna take some vacation time from work to help her get thru it.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
AWww thats a great idea! How wonderful you are!

I didnt have a c-section so I dont know first hand about the recovery, but I hear its painful and longer recovery than natural so any help you can give her is awesome!

Many p&pts for a smooth delivery

J-rod replied:
i have heard ~6 weeks

moped replied:
That is true!

Heather77 replied: I'm sorry to hear she might end up with a c-section. Is this her first child? I can't believe they aren't even going to give her the chance to labor and deliver on her own.



Maybe some doctors practice this way?
I've had 3 c-sections and my doctor never mentioned there was only a certain number allowed, so I'm assuming each case is different (with my doctor anyway).

I have a friend who has had 6 c-sections.

Best of luck to you both!

Mommy2Isabella replied: AWW! Goodness, I am sorry! I know that is the last thing Sal and I want, though it is a possibilitie!

I am sorry to hear about that though! I have talked to some people that SWEAR by c-sections. My doctor won't schedule one unless it is needed, but everything varies from patient to patient and doctor to doctor.

I wish you guys the best of luck and def. keep us posted!

Give Steph a hug from Sal and I, I know this has got to be really hard for her!

moped replied: I need to chime in again.............just from reading some posts I don't want her to get the impression that it is the worst thing in the world to happen. It isn't that bad and it is very common, not everybody wants it that way but she shouldn't endanger herself either.........so please don't tell her it is going to be horrible and hard - it will be just fine....she will be fine and the baby will be fine!!!!!

It really is not the worst thing

J-rod replied: well she is going to try to have natural birth....you never know....but i just want whats best for her...so whatever she chooses i will support 10000000000000000%


it is our first child

redchief replied: Just remember and remind yourselves that it really doesn't matter HOW your child comes into this world. If your wife is committed to trying to have her child naturally, that is admirable, and will give her a little more sense of control, regardless of how the birth experience finishes. Keep us posted on how things are going!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
ITA with Jen here! I just had one and although I've posted a lot lately about my experience, it's different for every person. I had a so called "perfect" delivery the first go around, so I have that to compare to. Plus, my C wasn't planned, so anything unexpected is scary IMO. But it really isn't all that bad. She will get through it and have a beautiful baby afterward! Just hold her hand and talk to her the whole time. Having my DH right there with me helped a ton! Going under is totally upto you guys. I've never heard there was a limit on the amount of kids you could have...that's odd to me.

Our Lil' Family replied: Like Jen, I had to have a c-section due to Thomas' heart rate dropping. I was terrified because everything happened so fast but really once I calmed down it wasn't so bad.

As for recovery time, I might be an oddball but my recovery was a cinch! Sure I was sore for several days and it took some getting used to getting up and down and in and out of bed but even with a vaginal delivery that's going to happen too.

Sounds like she has a great support system! Best of luck to the 3 of you!!

Brias3 replied: I don't know the statistics about how many kids you can have after a certain number of C-sections but I'm thinking that could just be a wives tale. It's likely individual to the person.

Also, I had a CS with my third baby. There's pros and cons to each the vaginal birth and the C-section. I had to have a planned CS due to placenta previa. I have to say, all those who completely favor c-sections over a vaginal due to pain factor elimination, its pretty even. Vaginal birth is more painful during, a c-section recovery (and more specifically the first 4-5 hours afterwards) is more difficult and painful. Either way, remember one thing: it doesn't matter HOW your child gets here, just so he/she is healthy. Good luck to you both!

Jamison'smama replied: I tried natural birth---many many hours only to end up with a c-section as well. By the time you labor and push for 12 hours, a c-section is not nearly as scary as you would imagine--you just want that baby out and healthy. If she labors first and dialates--she would probably already have an epidural and I would imagine she would be fine without being completely under --but whatever she needs..

I have had 2 c-sections and I develop a LOT of scar tissue so my OB advised against a 3rd and said definately not 4 however I am not the norm---most people don't develop scar tissue like I do and you don't even know that until you are opened up for the second time.

All together-it was not that bad!

Hugs!

A&A'smommy replied: I had a c-section because Alyssa wouldn't drop down something about my hips being too small. Anyway its painful and its sucks but when it all comes down to it you have a beautiful baby in your arms nothing really to be scared about I wasn't scared at all when I went down but that could have been the drugs. I don't recommend being knocked out I was and i totally regret it and I wish I would have chosen to stay awake but i didn't and I didn't get to here her first cry, or see her when she came out and I wish I would have been awake for that instead I woke up in recovery and freaked out because I didn't know what was going on... to me recovery after being knocked out was the scariest part (I also didn't know what to expect) so anyway discuss every option with your doctor make sure she asks a lot of questions and good luck!!

MyLuvBugs replied: Is Steph open to chiroprators? If so, try to find one that can help her hip problem. I started seeing a chiro a couple weeks ago b/c of my hip and back pain. He adjusted my right hip b/c it was tipped out of place and now no pain, the baby turned head down and I can walk better. It's something to look into at least.
But if she has to have a C, it will be fine. So long as the baby is healthy.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Given the odds, I would definately try for a C-Setion. I'm sorry that it has to come to that though.

flirtycuddle replied: I just wanted to say that I had a c-section this time around. My first was natural and I had nothing but complications so this time it was a scheduled c-section. It wasnt near as bad as I thought it was gonna be. On the day after I was up and walking on my own and feeling fine. Yea I was a lil sore but not like I thought I was gonna be. Just remember to make sure she takes it easy once home. I decided to be wonder women and do dishes, walk the dog, and pick up my 24lb toddler after 5 days and my incsion tore open. That is the only reason I am still in pain and its only been 2 weeks since I had him.

flirtycuddle replied: I just wanted to say that I had a c-section this time around. My first was natural and I had nothing but complications so this time it was a scheduled c-section. It wasnt near as bad as I thought it was gonna be. On the day after I was up and walking on my own and feeling fine. Yea I was a lil sore but not like I thought I was gonna be. Just remember to make sure she takes it easy once home. I decided to be wonder women and do dishes, walk the dog, and pick up my 24lb toddler after 5 days and my incsion tore open. That is the only reason I am still in pain and its only been 2 weeks since I had him. Als I wanted to say that I was in more pain with my natural birth then I am from this c-section.

my2monkeyboys replied: Just wanted to add my 2 cents...
I had a c-section with Will bc he was breech. He came out butt-first! LOL
The idea of it didn't bother me at all as I think it's more important that they get here, as healthy as possible for mother and child, regardless of the method. The first few days I had a small pillow to hold over my lower belly when I sneezed, laughed, whatever to keep the pain to a minimum. They gave me soem pain meds to take, but I only had to take them the first 2-3 days, and it was like that ultra-stranght Motrin, nothing heavy.
I also had the spinal tap, so I was fully awake, just totally numb from about the chest down. I did get a pillow under my head as the medicine starting creeping up and I felt like I couldn't swallow for a few minutes. They gave me a pillow and it went back down though. The worst part to me was having to be in recovery for an hour afterwards. I got to see Will and touch him when he was first born, but then I had to go to the recovery area. I wish I could have taken him with me in there. Really though the most important thing afterwards is not to stretch far, hold heavy items, etc for atleast a few weeks. Also, they didn't strap my arms down, and if they strapped the rest of me down it was long after I couldn't feel anything, so it didn't matter, KWIM?
either way, I'm sure she'll be fine just keep telling her that little baby boy will be here soon, and how he gets here will be just the first of many stressful things in your lives now! LOL I'm joking! Kind of... LOL
I'm sure you'll all do great, regardless... just keep supporting her, and she'll make it through.

Zoey replied: Hi there.

I had a schedule C-section, my pelvis is oddly shapen. I am here to say, I too was terrified of the whole idea. I was afraid mostly of getting my arms strapped down, and more so - I had this horrible fear of vomiting while I was strapped down and choking.
Naturally that didn't happen. They wheeled me in, and I swear to you it was all over and done with before I even had time to think about being afraid lol.

They let one of my arms be free, I think that helped alot. Before hand I had them go over all the details of what could go wrong and bla bla bla with my hubby outside my room so I couldn't hear it. I don't think people need to know all that stuff right before they have it done lol.

They let me hold my son while I was laying there, while I guess they were sewing me up. Another thing - as soon as I heard my baby cry and saw him - I completely forgot about what was happening to me and was so overcome by my son and how gorgeous he was lol.

Perhaps I am the odd person here but, I had very little pain. I had a drain in place too, and was up walking to the nursery 6 hours after the surgery. All I took for the pain was 800mg ibuprofen I did take percocet once for a migrain - but honestly I was prepared for alot more discomfort then what I had. Perhaps I was high on emotions lol.

I hope things go well - if you can talk her out of being completely under do, cause it is an amazing experience to hear your baby's first cry - I will never forget it and I cry everytime I think about it.

Love,
Zoey

Heather77 replied:
I agree!
They really aren't that bad ... and from personal experience, the two of mine that were scheduled were MUCH easier than the one that wasn't.

ashtonsmama replied: She'll be fine, I went through the same sort of thing, and it's hard to let go of your wishes for a birth, so she'll need some support, probably more after Kyan comes, it can be hard to not have it all go as planned, but she will be fine, I'm sure. Tell her we send her lots of hugs and love and support as she's preparing for this big day, and to you too!