curious - questions???

mom2tripp wrote: For those of you that stay at home, do you long to get out into the working world?

For those of you that work do you wish you could stay at home/

And who out there is completely content on staying at home or working outside the home??

kimberley replied: i stay at home and totally wish i could work.. but ONLY for financial reasons. things are really tight right now . if money wasn't an issue, i certainly want to be a SAHM. i feel it is my duty to raise my kids myself and can't imagine missing all the milestones. it does get bonkers some days where you wanna run away to timbuktu but for the most part, it is the most rewarding job on the planet. no raise can compare to the first "Mommy, I love you!"

TANNER'S MOM replied: I always give lip service to how I would love to be a stay at home Mom.. but I really wouldn't.

Of course my kids are older and at school. But I got laid off once and drew my unemployment.. I was so BORED then I became hateful. I felt confined and it made me short tempered.

And even saying that.. I will say I have always felt guilty for being a working mom though. I still have a hard time leaving Tanner especially.. b/c he is the only one not big enuff to go ..lol But you know.. I hate leaving him to do something for ME.. and he is 7. Just b/c I leave him all the time to work.. even tho he is at school..

I am a freak!

My2Beauties replied: I think if I stayed at home I woluld go stir crazy but that being said, I would love to work reduced hours. I would want to be home enough time in the morning to get breakfast for everyone and then get home early enough to cook a decent supper (at a decent time, instead of 7:00-8:00 at night) and when Hanna gets in school with a reduced shift I will be able to see her off to school in the mornings and get her off the bus or even from school in the afternoons! That is my ideal, that is what Brian and I want to accomplish with his job now!

JP&KJMOM replied: Well, I am a WOHM but have been a SAHM and I would say I prefer working. I got laid off too and drew my share of unemployment during that time but I also got really depressed and DH was traveling so I was there all day and night with my kids by myself. DH finally called my best friend and told her to find a sitter and get me out of the house one night a week.
I went back to work in Feb. this year and DH said he could almost immediately tell a difference in my moods. I love my kids but I also love my job. Plus we have some really great family time in the evenings.

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MyBrownEyedBoy replied: My job schedule is ideal. I work 7 days on 7 days off. Sure they are long days, but I would go nuts at home all the time. I sometimes go nuts on my 7 off. But it balances out and I am perfectly content working. I love my job and love what I do.

mom21kid2dogs replied: After 22 years of my career (18 months as a mom) I've been a SAHM for 3 years. I ADORE staying at home with my daughter. I was not the mother I wanted to be while trying to manage motherhood and a career. My hats off to those who can actually manage that!

I'll be returning to work after she is settled into her school career for a multitude of reasons, not the least of which is that we will be paying for college in our 60's but I can never thank my husband enough for taking on our total financial burden and giving me the freedom to stay home!

5littleladies replied: I'm a sahm and I love, love, love it! There is no where else I'd rather be than right here taking care of my precious kiddos! I do get a bit loopy at times but that's just a part of the package at times.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I admit to having a REALLLLLLLY hard time transitioning into being a SAHM throughout this past year, but now, I wouldn't think twice about going back to work. Not only because I'm PG with another one, but because I feel very fortunate to get the opportunity to witness all of Wil's milestones myself. I do miss adult interaction and the "adult" projects that I used to be responsible for, but I know that I can always go back to it when my kids are older and in school. I understand that SAH is not for everyone...and I completely applaud all the parents who do both! But this is what worked for our family and I absolutely love it!

MommyToAshley replied: Most of you know that DH and I have a unique situation... we run a business that allows us to work out of a home office. We share all responsibilities of caring for the home, the business, and care of Ashley. Most of the time, one of us cares for Ashley while the other is doing work for the business. Sometimes I get a little overwhelmed trying to juggle everything, but I can not put into words how thankful I am that I have been able to stay home with Ashley and spend so much more time with her than if I had worked out of the home. I do wish I didn't have to juggle my time between the business and Ashley... I would love to devote all of my time to her. But at least my hours are flexible and I can usually work while she is sleeping.

At first, there were times when I was lonely for adult conversation and missed the "office politics". But, I've made new friends, mostly SAHM's. I think it's important to get outside and do things when you are at home all the time... so, I do dread the winter months.

So, while I a not exactly a WOHM or a SAHM, I do wish I could be just a SAHM. Ashley is at MIL's house being spoiled right now, and I just miss her SOOOO much.

As it has already been said, being a SAHM is not for everyone... but it is what I would love most.

ammommy replied: I love staying at home! The first 6 -12 months, I wondered if I was doing the right thing because I was going insane and yearned for adult conversation that didn't involve poop or breastfeeding, but now that the kids are older (and more fun
) I don't regret staying home. Sure, I have rough days, but I had rough days at work, too.

MomToMany replied: I absolutely love staying home. I couldn't imagine working outside rhe home. I'd miss way too many little things when the kids are little!

I DO work at home. I put together these things for the company DH works for. They are for automotive horn switches. The ones I make are for Dodge Durangos, Dakotas, & Ram trucks. They are easy to put together, but very time consuming. I try to get about 20,000 done a week (which would be $500). Sometimes I make more than that, sometimes less. But it is flexible work; I get paid by the piece, not an hourly wage. I can work on them whenever I want (usually after the kids go to bed at night or when they are sleeping). I also try to do them during the day (we'll watch kid shows together while I work).

I don't have many friends IRL, but that's fine with me. I have a BFing support group that meets once a month, but we are starting to meet twice a month & just have a playgroup-type thing instead of just a BFing support group.

mammag replied: For the most part, I really love staying home with my kids and I wouldn't change my decision. Sometimes though, I miss being out there working. More for the adult interaction and sense of accomplishment. There are definitely times when I envy dh for his quiet office.... But I also know I would miss the chaos of home if I worked so I think I'm right where I'm supposed to be.

ilovemybaby replied: I'm a SAHM and I do long to go back to work... but I'm divided.... I want to see Abby grow up and see all her "firsts" etc... At the same time I am so lonely at home and I get so bored. I also wish I was earning some money...
My fiancé starts new hours soon though... he finishes at 3.30pm. So I could get a night shift job. I am thinking about it...

3xsthefun replied: I'm a SAHM, and most part I do love it. Though sometimes I do wish I could find a half way decent PT job. But until I find one. I will stay home with my kids.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I LOVE staying at home! I wouldn't trade it for the world! I am soooo blessed that I am able to be here with her all the time. Dh works his butt off to make that possible so of course sometimes I feel guilty for him taking on such a tremendous load but we both feel like the benifits to Taylor are worth the long hours and sleepless nights! Plus now we are able to go with him which is a BLAST! If I held a job outside of our home that would not be possible and we would not have very much family time together.All in all I would say that I am totally content being a sahm!

Edit to say~ Of course there are days when you want to run to the nearest adult and talk their ear off but at work when people were rude or just irritated me I couldn't say-"go to your room...5 minutes in the time out chair!"

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied: I was a SAHM for 6 years until my divorce a few months ago. and i loved it now i work 2 full time jobs and hardly ever see my kids and absoutly Despise my ex for this I truley believe this is the worse thing about the divorce. But i gotta feed the kids.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I am a working mom and I enjoy my job. I would not want to stay at home all day long because I need to be challenged intellectually.

However, if our financial situation allowed it, I would love to only work PT so that I could be home with our kids more. DH and I work opposite shifts so the kids go to their grandmother's house for 3 hours each day. It would be nice to be home before DH left for work.

kayla's mama replied: I always wanted to be the typical stay at home mom. I did 5 months, I loved it but I felt like I was missing something. Maybe if it wasn't such a financial burdern I would really love it. I'm hoping in 2 years I can stay home with our second one, of course after we get out of debt, the story of my life.