household chores
Dan wrote: What is your opinnion on who gets the chores of the house? If one partner works a full time job outside of the house and the other stays home all day who gets what for chores? If both partners work outside of the house who gets what for chores? My spouse and I have been fighting for more than two years about this subject and I want your opinnion.
MommyToAshley replied: DH and I both work from home and we split the chores. I have things I hate to do and he has things he hates to do so it works out well. Sometimes we have to help each other out, but it is more fun when we do it together anyways!
I know we are not your typical family, but I think the person that works can help with the chores too, but maybe have a lesser load. Maybe start by making a list of things you wouldn't mind doing and have your SO do the same and go from there. You should find a fun way to work it out together.
I am not sure I have been much help, but just my thoughts.
TLCDad replied: Yeah what she said 
supermom replied: I guess my question to you, Dan, is if she is staying home all day, is it with children? Or what? If it's with children, believe me, that is just as tiring (sometimes even more so) than a full time job 
Until you are more specific, then I will withhold my opinion until then........
MommyToAshley replied:  Good point Supermom
justamom replied: My opinion on this matter is that both should do the household work. After all, they both live there, they both dirty up the dishes, they both use the toilet, etc. Staying at home with the kids is very tiresome, especially when one is cranky and all want to be held at the same time. I have three children, one is in school, but staying at home with the other two just wears me out. My husband works full time, and he does some work around the house. He will put in some laundry, he will take out the trash. He will wash a few dishes, and pick up some toys. Even though it's not that much, at least he is trying to help. If he had an attitude of "you're the wife, you stay at home, everything in this house is your job", I'd be very upset. I wouldn't want to do anything! I'm his wife, NOT his maid! Having a family means sharing the responsibilities, no matter who works, and who stays at home. That's what being a family is all about. You help eachother out when it's needed. Arguing over it isn't going to get it down. When are your days off? You could do some chores then. Or maybe watch or take the kids somewhere so that she could get some things done or just have some her time. Bottom line, I think that you BOTH should split the household work. You both have full time jobs, only she doesn't get a day off. Her's is really full time, all the time. I hope that this helps and you're fight gets resolved fast!
justamom replied:
Oh, and it doesn't matter who uses what more... if you use more dishes, or she uses the toilet more. That's not the issue. What matters is that she may need help.
ashade75 replied: Both I and my husband work full time and we have 3 children. He usually does most of the chores because he gets off work around 2:30 and it is 5:30 or 6 before I get home. Also he says he doesn't like the way I clean so I let him do it.
I am mixed on the idea if one parent stays home. I think if one parent is a stay at home parent then they should be the one to do the regular chores like make the beds and laudry, etc. becasue they are home during the day ( I know taking care of children is a full time job itself). But on the otherhand if that person is able to do the regular chores during the day, that gives you more time in the evening and weekends to spend as a family.
I do think all stay at home parents need their weekends off also. So weekend chores should be done together as well as major chores (cleaning out the garage).
I admire all of you who have the opportunity to stay home with your children while they are young. I think that is real important for the children.
TLCDad replied: Well I best get to my cleaning. Dee Dee is about to spank me silly I think. 
Kaitlin'smom replied: WOW Teesa you are orginised! (sp)  I am speechless..............we both do the cleaning around the house, since we both work full time. Although I do all the laundry, and he takes care of the cat box. Other wise we clean when we can, I just dont get how we dirty so many dishes so fast! Thank goodness for the dishwasher!
Kaitlin'smom replied:
ya some how I dont think you would mind...... 
MommyToAshley replied: I hope we didn't scare off Dan. TLCDad has been wanting another Dad to join. hehehe.
TLCDad replied:
I know what you mean. Where do they all come from? 
CantWait replied: hmmmmm lets see, I remember when I was a stay at home mom with my first son. I didn't mind doing the just of the work, bout 90% I'd say. Things like dishes, floors, bathrooms, bedrooms, etc..... especially because my DH has a very demanding and physical job. Although I do EXPECT him to do some of the work around the house. Dinner dishes once in a while, taking out the garbage the night before or the morning of, taking the laundry down to the basement. He's also the one that helps my son with his homework most of the time. He's a lot better at that then I am. And since he's very unorganized, he gets to do the spring cleaning. Like he is now. LOL hahaha.  Of course now that I'm working fulltime, I expect that things are split nearly 50/50. I work all weekend, so I'd hope that if the house is in some grave distress when I leave for work on a Saturday morning that it will look as if it's pampered at least by Sunday night. I still get the real gritty jobs though...picking up the dog poop in the backyard, and cleaning the bathroom  Hubby has a low tolerence for things of this nature. Bet he can't wait for the poopy diapers again. Then again he'll be leaving for 6 months not long after baby is born. Shucks!!!!!!!
MommyToAshley replied: LOL! Although that is prolly more close to the truth than a joke.
TLCDad replied:
That was funny
And yep a Fun and Games/Joke forum is in the works and most likely will make its presence as well as other forums soon
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