im just really down today - my vent

NaturalMom wrote: Ok this might be long but ill try to keep it short. I know you all dont know me very well but i dont know where else to vent. I recently started a business in january. I have been using their products for about 7 years now and i love them so much i wanted to sell them cuz i saw the money that people were making that i knew. We are talking tons of money. retire and travel kind of money. This is what we want more than anything. We have done tons of MLM businesses and have researched 100s and we decided on this one. So far the year has been going well but the problem is me. See all growing up i had a seriously dysfunctial cover up kind of family. THey always told me how wrong i was in everything i did and blamed me my issues when it was them that were the NUT cases. Plus everyone in my family constantly let me down and ridiculed me. So here i am now in a business where 80% of people regect you. Do you know how hard it is to explain to people about their health and their childrens health when they all want to do is eat crap cuz they have no idea what the ingredients are doing and most of them have no idea how nutrition affects sickness, disease and disorders like ADHD and things like that. So to my point. My point is im working my butt off but am constantly getting regected. When i do get a customer and/or they are successful in their program and their goals, somehow i turn them off and they stop coming back or they seek another distributor. I dont know what im doing that is wrong? I give them 200%. i give extra's all the time. i give everyone discounts contantly. i never charge shipping to repeat customers. I mean i do alot in the way of customer service. Im very educated. if i dont know the answer my upline does or i ask one of our doctors. So i just dont know why people dont take to me. Is it just me cuz of my childhood? do i do something to make these people regect me or is it that im over sensitive cuz ive always been regected and i hate it? I love working from home and i love the potential this business has but i hate it! HATE IT! I love it when it goes well but HATE the constant regection i have to put up with. And in an MLM business you have to have a thick skin for regection and i havent been able to learn that yet. What i really want to do is design clothes and open a boutique. but it takes money. so i joined this business so i could make that money. So im stuck? i dont want to go back to a regular job. to me its a waste of time and not for me. So what the heck do i do? stick it out? change businesses again and admit my failure? Someone help me?! lol im so sad and so lost. The reason MLM business dont work for most people is they quit when it gets tough like im doing now. so i dont want to but at the same time how do i deal with the regection better? anyone have any suggestions?

NaturalMom replied: gee all those readers and no one has anything to say to cheer me up or help me figure this out huH?

A&A'smommy replied: I really don't thinks its people rejecting you, I bet its more people not sticking with it. Just do what you feel like you need to do, keep selling if you enjoy it and try not to take others choosing someone else or not calling you personally (I know easier said than done) its a business and people are like that.. and its everywhere its not just you!!

coasterqueen replied: I'm not sure what to say.

Dh and I tried Herbal Life through the Chiropractic Association I worked for. They swore by it. We committed to it for quite some time with no real results. For us we concluded it wasn't a good "working" product.

NaturalMom replied: thanks for replying. :-) i guess maybe this just isnt the business for me. im too darn sensitive. lol thanks for listening ;-)

momofone replied: I'm am sorry you had a difficult childhood that is sad. It seems like a difficult field to make money in. I would suggest looking into other options. I know it's hard to change I think it would be for the best. Once you settle in in Florida maybe you can find something you like down there. The best of luck to you.

gr33n3y3z replied:
I would say stay away from all those types of things bc ppl. will either like it or hate it and most of the time it just doesnt work.

And maybe you just try to hard which is possable

NaturalMom replied: aw thanks for the hug. :-) Yes this business is so hard but it pays off so well. I have had great months and then crap months. I have seen my friends pass me up and get rich and i want what they have. but they are so outgoing and rejection doesnt faze them. If anyone knows of any other MLM business that are good let me know. lol i know i want an MLM company. I guess i need one that is more internet and less face to face. i think people can read in my face that im scared to death of them. lol

redchief replied: Personally, I didn't answer at first because I didn't want to hurt your feelings. Herbalife is a well-known, highly documented Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) scheme. Their products, while not dangerous, can certainly be duplicated elsewhere for much less money. They've been repeatedly fined by at least two different governments for operating an illegal MLM.

I seriously believe you're not going to make much money in Herbalife. I wouldn't buy an Herbalife product. Good luck with it anyway.

Cece00 replied: Well, personally, I would never buy it.

I also couldnt do business like that. I just dont have the personality for it. Good luck in whatever you decide, though.

NaturalMom replied:
see no offense to you but this is the stuff i deal with all the time!! "i will never buy that". It just drives me crazy? why would anyone refuse to buy vitamins? top of the line pharmaceutical grade kind? not the crap you find in stores? I just dont get it! and lots of people feel this way. Most have no idea what it is and they still say no. All rudely too. Thats why you have to have a tough skin and i dont. i get so frustrated and i think to myself "why wouldnt anyone want to learn about something that will help your health?" We are told to brush that off and keep going and someone else will know the value but its darn tiring. ok now ive got myself all heated again! lol Sorry! i really wasnt yelling at you directly. im just saying this is the kind of thing i get all the time and i just start to take it personally i guess. like im clueless or something! lol i think im just having a real crap day! lol

Bamamom replied: Folks like me just immediately turn off when people start trying to sell them something. Your product may be top of the line but I don't want any vitamins - no offense to you. I just don't like it when people try to pressure sell me. Maybe that is the problem - you are coming across a little too high pressure and it is turning your costumers off.

Anyway - I hate you are feeling bad and having a bad day. Hope it gets better soon!

Calimama replied: I'm sorry hun. I would try not to take it personally, it's not YOU it's just people may not be interested in the product. Tons of

NaturalMom replied:
sorry but that is incorrect information. It is not a scheme. CNBC just did a special on herbalife on Mad Money. The guy actually ate crow on tv as a way of saying he was wrong in saying herbalife was a scam. they researched it and proved it to be one of the best reliable companies around. He then had another special with our CEO on the show telling people how wrong he was and praising the products. so not to took herbalife's horn but this misconception is why im having so many issues. I just dont have the strength to sit here and explain this to everyone everytime i talk to someone. i mean companies have law suits all the time. we have 2 and that was do to bad distributors. not the company itself. yet they still were financially reponsible. BUT the gov't actually put out an apology and they dropped the charges. Google it if you dont believe me!!! the pharmaceutical companies have more lawsuits than 2 but you all dont refuse them? i can see that this post has just given me the exact crap i was saying im tired of nevermind guys. i can get this crap from my potential clients. i dont need it here too.

Calimama replied:
Maybe it's time to take a break from selling it?

NaturalMom replied:
yep! i think you are right. its seems to just not be for me. Thanks :-)

jcc64 replied: I don't really know much about your product, except that there is potential for alot of profit. I know a family that sells it- and they are LOADED. However, like anything else, it's how you sell it.
People don't like being lectured about their eating habits- they take it very personally. Just look what happened here when I said something about chicken mcnuggets. People don't want to beleive what they don't want to believe. You're not going to change that 90% of the time.
When your living depends on doing just that, it takes a certain type of personality to succeed. I can't give you advice about it, b/c I'm not in possession of one of those kinds of personalities. I'm not a saleswoman, nor do I have a head for business. When I lost my job, I tried to freelance, and though I could find and do the work no problem, I absolutely could not deal with negotiating my fees. My clients were always trying to pay me a fraction of what the work was worth. It infuriated me endlessly, and I would end up stewing about it for days, much like you. After awhile, I realized that's what good business people do- and I didn't have the fortitude to go back at them. It's just not who I am, or want to be.
I think that's what your problem is too, hon, based on your post. Good salespeople don't take it personally when someone doesn't want their product- they just sharpen their sales pitch and move on to the next victim. It doesn't matter if you're selling plastic trinkets or the cure for cancer- the methodology and the mindset is the same.
And something else I've learned along the road, hon. NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING, that pays really big bucks, is easy to do. Otherwise, we'd all be doing it, right?
Good luck, and My advice- find something you really love to do. Then it never feels like work, regardless of how much it pays.

NaturalMom replied:
thank you so much. this is a great post. thank you for not bashing my product and business. i know tons of people make money at this company but it is like you said. im just not one of those. so i guess either i find something else of if i want to be rich that bad, im just gonna have to learn to brush this off. Thank you so much. you really helped :-)

luvmykids replied:
Nobody is bashing you, just giving their opinions of the product. Ed even said that he didn't initially respond because he didn't want to hurt your feelings. That may be why the rejection is hard for you, it's tough to differentiate When people say no, they're saying no to what you're selling, not you. I could never be in that line of work because, like you, I take it personally. Someone else mentioned that people will either love your product or hate it, and like many other MLM products, you have to weed out a ton to find the few who want what you've got.

I admire you for not wanting to give up but if it's so frustrating for you and taking a toll on you in this way, it may not be what you were ultimately looking for.

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avory&samsmom replied: honey, I totally understand how you're feeling right now. I'm in sales as well, and the worst part is trying to convince others that what you're selling is what they need. I'm in one of the most hated businesses in the world (insurance) and we deal with NO! every day. In some instances, it's a requirement for them, in others it seems a luxury item they can't afford. Although our situations are different, I understand where you're coming from. You believe in your product fully and completely and you want others to benefit. There is nothing wrong with that. Nothing for you to feel badly about. Keep your chin up! Maybe take a breather, re-prioritize, and think about what YOU want.