invitation wording??

kimberley wrote: need help deciding on the wording for the invitations. i want to acknowledge my dad for sure since he is paying for a lot of the wedding. my mom will help some so i guess i could put her in there too. anyone have ideas? i am creatively challenged today (and most days ) so any help is appreciated. tia.

kit_kats_mom replied: the knot.com has some invitation wording advice. I'd try there first then maybe do a search on wedding ettiquitte and see if they have any advice.

akbutterfly83 replied: Look in here....

www.ultimatewedding.com

that's a chat board that can help... but they have stores, and articals.... and ways to word invatatins....

hope this helps......

Good Luck!

ediep replied: my wedding invitation said

Edith christine ---
and
Scott Michael ----
Together with our parents
request the honor of your presence


we did it that way because we paid for most of the wedding ourselves, my parents helped a bit, Scotts mom did the favors and flowers, and FIL did nothing (they're divorced)

3_call_me_mama replied: A friend of ours had a cute one that said
"(Their children's names) request the honour of your presence on (date) at (time) to celebrate the marriage and unity of thier parents, (your first and middle name) adn (and your dh's first adn middle name).

(this my be tricky if your kiddos have different last names than either of you but could easily be made to work. or maybe just something liek a program thanking your parents or dad or whomever you choose


good luck hth

My2Beauties replied:
This is how ours are worded it has our names then says together with their parents. I almost chose one that said our names along with their children but didn't do that since a lot of people think that when you word it that way the kids are going to be standing at the alter as well which in our case, my 18 month old isn't standing up at the alter I could see it now ! However, the preacher (who happens to be Brian's uncle) told us that there are vows worded for individuals who are bringing children into a marriage, whether it be their own child or step, which in our case is both so they do word them into the ceremony but from what I was told, I've been told a million things though, if you include the kids then that means they are standing up at the alter, don't know for sure! But it's definitely nice to put your parents in there! After all they are giving you guys away!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: If it's only your parents paying, I wouldn't put "together with OUR parents" because it would sound like your in-laws are pitching in too. If this is the case, then YES, acknowledge both sides. I'm pretty traditional, so I would maybe write:

Mr. & Mrs.______________, (or write out their names seperately if they're divorced),
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter,
Kimberely ____________ (just add your middle name, not last),
to
__________________ (fiance's full name)
at ________ (time), on _______ (date), 2005,
_________________ (place).

Good luck!

3_call_me_mama replied: I guess we never looked at it as the sense of who was paying?! We were inviting people to share our wedding day with us, and our families. My mom adn dad footed the entire bill, we put in NOTHING! And our invitation mentioned both parents by name.... and the only one at the alter with us was my father inlaw cause he was my husbands best man... so i don't think that it implies that the people listed on teh invitation will be standing at the alter with you..... just my opinion.....

watching all you ladies get married and go through all this stressful stuff reminds me of why i had a horrible time planning my wedding. it was so stressful, adn will never do it again!

kimberley replied:
that is the case here. not just monetarily, but there doesn't seem to be much interest in this event from that side.

i think i will go with yours. it is traditional and simple. thanks

i am thinking of working the kids into the ceremony somehow too. maybe get them little rings.. not sure yet.

Cary, i must have done something wrong with thekot.com cuz all i got were ads to buy stuff

Hillbilly Housewife replied: My invitation wording went something like this, it was a trifold homemade printed paper, regular letter sized:


***************************
Front:

cheesy quote about love

Middle:

Your presence would be greatly appreciated at the wedding ceremony of
(my full name)
daughter of
(my mother's full name)
and of
(my father's full name) (done this way because my 'rents are divorced...)
to
(SO's full name)
son of
(MIL's full name) and (FIL's full name) (on same line, since they're still together)


The nuptials will take place
saturday, May twenty first
two thousand and five
at one thirty pm
at XXXXX church
in Orleans, Ontario


3rd page:

Please join yourselves to the reception (or cocktail, evening, bruch, whatever)
given in their honour
which will begin at four pm (or 2pm, 8pm, whatever)
at Stanley's Maple Lane Farm
at 2452 Yorks Corners Road
in Edwards, Ontario



(and way at the bottom of the page)
Please confirm your attendance
before April 1st, 2005
********************************


The reason it is worded this way is that everyone is chipping in, some as little as 300$. The wedding is costing us approximatley, so far, 16 000$, not counting several things. At the END, it will probably be more like 20 000$, but anyways.

We're doing it very informal, well not in jeans, but it's not a big fairy tale wedding or anything.....it's just a natural fun party at an extremely well equiped maple farm.

Hope that helps some....and let me know if you want me to email you the template for it

DVFlyer replied: We wrote something like:

"Our names" along with our families request the honor of your presence to share in the celebration of our friendship and love.

DVFlyer replied: Hey, I just thought.... have you thought about asking your dad how he would like it worded? It might make him feel good that you are thinking so much of him and the fact he's helping you out with the finances.

kimberley replied:
great idea! thanks!

my dad is so cute . we are still having problems figuring out where we are going to have the church ceremony and he called me yesterday remembering a nice chapel he attended a wedding for. apparently the grounds are gorgeous to take pics and i think he really wants me to book it there. he was so excited about his "revelation"