nature vs nurture?

cameragirl21 wrote: not much to add to what i wrote in the poll, what do you think? i will say nurture for the most part, unless you're dealing with someone who was born with extreme conditions like a psychopath, but i know many would disagree with me....

C&K*s Mommie replied: Before Kellie came to the world, I would have easily said its nurture hands down. But since the day (literally) that she came into this world nearly 3years ago, I would say it is in part both. She had a strong personality the moment she was born, and has ever since. I also think parents have an influence as well, and can either supress or influence the growth of a personality that a child was born with.

luvmykids replied: Nature all the way. In my experience of being a mom to boy/girl twins I feel like I'm watching an experiment in this very subject and it's pretty interesting at times.

I think nurture has it's role, I just don't think it's as strong as nature.

cameragirl21 replied:
in principle i agree with you, Monica, but the reason i chose nurture is because i think nature is only the main factor if you allow your children to be whomever they are.
for instance, i was born in the USSR but came here very young whereas my GA was born in the USSR and came here as an adult. i tend to be very outspoken and am eager to say whatever's on my mind and she said that if i grew up in Russia i'd be a totally different person because i'd learn early on that if i don't shut up i'll get in serious trouble.
so here in the US, i was allowed to turn into who i am, by nature, but had i grown up in an environment where i learned early on that i must act a certain way to survive i'd be a different person entirely.
do you see what i mean?

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I chose both for the same reasons as Nichole did.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Both. Nature might be one thing... but, for instance...what good is it if you're born with an extrememly high IQ, and that's not nurtured?

I think nature has one way of doing things.... but nurturing depends on where you're from...as not every child is nurtured the same way. Here in America, you have the spoiled obnoxious brats who don't care about anybody and will do whatever they want, at the threat of abuse, neglect or whatever to whomever gets in their way, being completely disrespectful to their elders. (not saying it's typical... it's just an example of someone brought up with no barriers... and who usually have way more than enough) In Africa, for instance, children are brought up in a world where they need to help gather food, water etc in order to survive...aren't spoiled, and respect their elders and probbaly wouldn't even dream of giving anybody any attitude...

Boys r us replied: I agree that I think BOTH factors play an important part of who a person becomes!

cameragirl21 replied: i also want to add that while i definitely think that nature is a very strong factor, IMO nurture is definitely a stronger factor so i wouldn't call them even, i'd say they are both important but that nurture is the dominant factor.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Okay.. my mother didn't raise me.. I might her in my late 20's. And I never thought anything about it.. my father would say things to me about how I resembled her..but it goes beyond looks. We have alot of the same mannerisms that really freaked me out at first. From using our hands the same way..from cutting a sandwich the same way. When discussed things like favorite colors.. to the colors of our Christmas tree it freaked me out. We have lots of differences too.. I love horses but she hates them and is scared of them. But I was raised with them.. so that goes to enviroment.

I think in my case it's 50/50.. but for me it was so strange to see things that had to be nature.. had to be things I was born with ..if not how could I have gotten them???

Boo&BugsMom replied:
This is my thinking. Nature has it's place, but I think the environment in which a child is brought up can really make or break a child and has more of an effect on children. Many personality traits come with nature, but what kind of an adult a child turns out to be, I believe to be mostly in the upbringing from their environment.

Cece00 replied: I think nuture is dominant, but not by much...I believe nature has a big part in it, too.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Speaking from personal experience I would have to say that it was the environment in which I was raised that made me the way I was. Having done a psychological exam and having a mental illness that has been documented to have been caused by the environment in which a person was raised. I'm not saying that I don't love my parents, they just in my opinion ready to be parents!

JadensMama05 replied: I said both and agree with everything Rocky said.

I was raised mosty by my mom and my brother was raised mostly by my dad.. we are extremely the same. You'd think we definitely grew up together if you saw us together.

luvmykids replied:
I do see what you mean and it's why I say nurture has a role, however having seen the twins from birth where Colt is such a boy, and has been from the moment of his arrival, and Kylie is such a girl, and knowing first hand they've received the same nurturing I can't help but say it's nurture that predominates. ITA that nurture can oppose and reverse nature but I think as you said, if you allow nature to take it's course, it's the determining factor.

As a parent, IMO, I think the nurture aspect comes in to play in tempering nature...my goal is to help them flourish as who they are meant to be at their core which means to me that I nurture the nature, does that make sense?