school dress guidleines... - gettin on my last nerve.....minni vent

luvbug00 wrote: I was wondering what the school guidlines for your childrens schools are?

I wanted to go BTS shoppping with Mya but we can't buy alot of the things she likes because the school has bashed them. This is making my life difficult and I'm really annoyed. I saved up all this money to get her the cutiest clothes and shoes since the other stuff like crayons and stuff are community shared by the whole class, so no special pencils or anything. Like I've mentioned before she's really into fashion ( dresses better then me. ) and so I wanted to let her go to town. alot of the stuff she likes I have measured and they don't match the guidelines this STINKS!!

iluvmysweetiepies replied: Well Ashlyn is going into high school next year. Her school's rules are pretty much no sweats, flip-flops, short skirts/shorts (not sure about the length), no spaghetti straps, no logos bigger than an index card. My other 2 daughters are at a different school. One will be wearing a uniform (whole set of fress code rules for that I won't even go into ) and the other is in preschool. No uniform, but I don't think they have a dress code for the preschool.

We haven't even attempted fall school clothes shopping yet. But it's always fun.

Happy shopping!!

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry you are having such a rough time of it. Although I can imagine how hard it is to shop with such guidelines, I understand the reason for them.

Do you sew or know anyone that can sew.... maybe you can make a similar style but a little longer to fit within guidelines.

mom21kid2dogs replied: Olivia doesn't start until next year but they have uniforms so it's pretty much a non issue here. I'm sure Mya will get plenty of opportunities to wear her stylin' outfits to parties & such!

lisar replied: My DD is going to a private school. So she has to wear dress's or skirts. No pants, no shorts and she has to wear collard shirts. They have to be a specific color to. Kaki or navy blue or plaid. And the shirts are white, green, red, navy blue. Those are my choices.

Lisa

iluvmysweetiepies replied:
Really? The girls aren't allowed to wear pants or shorts? At least you have some variety in the colors of the shirts, at my girls' school they can only wear white (collard) shirts.

mammag replied: The school here has some guidelines (all reasonable, imo) but it is mainly about size of clothing........ shorts can't go higher than middle finger when arms are at side, no belly shirts, no spaghetti straps..... I'm all for those. They also have the flip flop rule for safety because kids can't run for gym and when they play at recess the shoes can go flying.

Capri's are always a stylish option. I think she'll be able to find plenty that she can wear to fit within the guidlines while still looking stylish.

luvbug00 replied: ours are basically the same and I agree with the belly shirts and too short skirts ( cuz God knows I've seen some that just walking and you see their "Quackers ) not appropriate for anyone under 18 IMO. But here they are picky of what the clothes say and all the clothes arround here have SOMTHING on them. I don't get all the hubbub about the spagetti straps? Ahh well thanks for the seggestions I'm normaly better at sewing dog clothes but I could give kids clothes a try. thanks Ladies!

gr33n3y3z replied: Erin is in public High School
This is her guide lines for dress code

No hoodies what so ever
They can have zip up sweatshirts minus the hood and it has to be in these colors
Black,orange,white,N blue or light blue.

khaki pants ONLY or shorts tan,drk blue or black and white.

Polo shirts short or long sleves shirts 3 buttons , white,orange,black,lt. blue, drk blue

Dress shirts all solid colors same colors as the polos.

they can wear sweaters but have to be solid colors and same colors as the polos

Skirts have to be finger tip long when arms stright down and colors only same as pants and shorts.

no cords or pants with rivets or cargo pockets of any kind no matter how small the pockets are. no coin pockets on pants either.
I think I'm done now lol

maestra replied:
It's because the older girls (like 6th grade or so) tend to have breasts (and some of them quite large) and it is very easy for the strap to fall or accidentally be pulled (or even on purpose) and for the breasts to be exposed. As a kindergarten teacher, I can tell you that we only ban certain items after there has already been a problem.

I know it seems like a lot of rules, but we really are looking out for the childrens' safety, and trying to avoid any potential embarassment.

luvbug00 replied: AH ok! thanks!

JAYMESMOM replied: We attend charter schools and the girls have to wear collared shirts in either hunter green or white. Skirts or skorts or shorts to the knee or khaki pants. All bottoms must be khaki colored.

On casual day they can wear jeans but no tank tops, spagettie straps, halters etc.

Shelly replied: our school has guidlines also but IMO they are all good ones in elementary it is no spaghetti straps, no short short skirts or short tight shorts that show butt cheeks, no belly shirts

A&A'smommy replied: They sound like good rules to me... I think stores are making it hard for parents they have all these adult looking clothes for little kids And a LOT of times fashion is IMPORTANT to younger kids it sucks for them.

ions_momma replied: Ion's school guidelines arent really too strict I dont think. The girls arent allowed to wear anything strapless or with spaghetti straps. They cant wear short skirts either. The boys cant wear pants that dont cover thier butt, and actually Ion had a little boy in his class that dressed so "gangster" and wore pants that he had to hold up or they would fall down and shirts that looked 3 sizes too big! The school had a meetng with his parents to change his style for school! They also cant wear shirts with inappropriate sayings on them. For example, Ion has shirt (which his dad bought him!) that says "Hugh Jass fitness center" that he cant wear to school. I wouldnt let him anyways though, I only allow that shirt to be worn at home!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Luckily we don't have to worry about all of that since Maddie will be attending a private school. We even had to buy her uniforms from a specific uniform shop so all the kids will match right down to the dye lot. The school supply list was so specific it was sickening. They had to have these certain folders, but they couldn't have a brand on them (like Mead) I gave them $70 and let them buy the school supplies for her. (that was an option) I can just see me running to 5 different stores to do all that....no thanks! I did pick up a few extras to have around the house in case we need them, but I'm glad I dont' have to worry about finding all that stuff.

mom21kid2dogs replied:
OMGosh that is hysterical!!
I had to read it about 3x to get it, though! How pathetic is that?

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I know this might sound silly - but it`s because f the difference in money flow for the families....

as in - private school usually has a uniform of a specific dress code (like only white collar chirst, blue skirts of pants) because generally if a parent can afford to send a child to private school, they can afford to buy them specific clothes... but most private schools have a little 'store' where older students can give away their old clothes or clothes that don`t fit anymore, and younger newer students or students whose family is less fortunate can buy them.

Also - the logos - the typical reason they do this is because not everyone can afford a Tommy Hilfiger shirt, or CK jeans... it avoids a lot of tension between students who are rich and those who are not.

Kids can be much crueler than adults... and although NOW I wouldn`t get bashed for wearing regular clothes inseatd of Brandname cltohes, in high school, I would have - so I'm thankful my school had a uniform.

KoolaidMom replied: Well I have a boy so its pretty easy to dress him. I guess if he starts wanting to wear spaghetti straps then I might have a problem! LOL!

But my Daugher will be heading to school in a year and I can see where it will be more difficult to shop for her.

I know at our school they can wear most things with the exception of short skirts and backless shoes. And they may not wear T-shirts with any wrestling or offensive slogans. I think for the youger ones Sphaghetti straps might be o.k. Or maybe they just don't enforce it as much.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well I am for the dress code..

Here it isnt bad we have no gang related activity..

Just basic no spaghetti straps..wish the girls still wear..just with a layered white thick strapped Tank..which I approve off..
And nothing shorter than arms length..
I really do approve..

And the school supplies is what makes me mad...why do they TeLL me my child has to have 3.99 fiskar scissors..when the 1.00 are the same but no name brand..then after I buy the 4.00 ones he can't put his name on them..b/c they are community property..that p's me off...... mini vent

ions_momma replied:
Yeah when my DH first brought it home I had to read it a few times and then I finally got it!

mommy_loves_chase replied: All i can say is a lot has changed since i went to school we could wear all that stuff then

boysmom replied: Well, we have uniforms here, you don't have an option not to wear them. Makes life a lot easier, grey school pants, white polo shirt, green school jumper and hat, black leather lace up shoes. I'd hate to have to dress kids each day in normal clothes, must cost a fortune?

Louise

Giasmommy replied: We've also got the no spaghetti strap, short skirt, belly shirt dress code. Boys cant' have their underwear hanging out, no inappropriate sayings on clothing, etc.

What's adorable on a 5yr old kindergartener can sometimes be provacative and inappropriate on a 12yr old 6th grader. And OMG, I've seen some Tween girls dressed like little hookers. Schools can no longer trust parental judgement in things like this, unfortunately, so they have to make the rules themselves.

NummyMommy replied:
ITA its not the schools fault we have guidlines now....its the parents who dress their kids up like exotic dancers and say "Isnt that just the cutest thing?" I'm sorry but have these parents never heard the word pedophile? I'm sorry this is my own little pet peeve....I'll get off my anyways we DON'T have a dress code here and I hear we have the highest teen pregnancy rate in the state Makes ya wonder doesnt it?

CantWait replied: some schools are really rediculous with their guidelines. Hope you can find some good deals.

jem0622 replied: I wish Nathan was in a uniform. It makes life so much easier. Everyone looks the same. That's good in a lot of ways. No distractions, no fighting over who looks like what in what and so forth. I went to private school and so I am okay with it. We couldn't wear makeup or long earrings. I was fine with it.

Nathan is sharing supplies also and that is fine with me. I'd rather have the teacher keeping track instead of him carrying those things to and fro.

luvbug00 replied: we have the sharring supplies things too. they want me to go broke!! Oh and I NEVER lat mya wear skirts with out some shorts underneath. She is into the prep look this season and so I think we may end up being ok! Thanks for all your advice!!

momof3angels replied: The public schools we switched to have very definate guidelines. They are only allowed to wear navy blue, white, tan, and gray. All shirts must have a collar and sleeves and no torn clothes or cuttoffs, pants must be hemmed. Shirts must be below waist but not below tips of fingers, shorts must be below tips of fingers. I actually LOVE having these guidelines, no guessing what the kids will be wearing, fights over what to wear, no "keeping up with the cool kids"...makes life much easier.

six_kids_at_28 replied: No dress code here! I'm very happy because it would be torture to go shopping! My 14 yr nice tho told me that in middle school here, your shorts/skirts have to be the length of your arms (so when you let down your arms the tips touch the bottom of skirt), no spagetti straps, and no innapropriate words or logos. She also has just started high school and says the only dress code there is no underwear showing LOl it doesnt make any sense that middle school has more rules than high school but one day I dropped her off..girls with SUPER short skirts, slippers, pjs, tank tops, whatever LOL