something really upset me - sorry, its long

ediep wrote: a little background--- Jason has very sensitive hearing and he always has. When he was a baby little noises would wake him up or startle him. Now that he is just about 4, he always tells me that he is scared of loud things like the movie theater when a movie first starts, or sirens and thing of that sort

ok, so now whats got me upset--
This past weekend we went to Lancaster to see Thomas the Tank Engine. We had a nice trip, great hotel, with a pool and sprinkler park indoor, the restuarants were really kid friendly. On Saturday we go to the train station, wait on line to see Thomas, ride on the train, all the while we are having a nice time. After we get off the train we get on a photo line to get a pic of us with Thomas and as soon as we sit down in front of the photographer the stupid train blows the whistle and lets off the steam and Jason gets scared of the loud (and I mean LOUD) noise. He starts crying and we don't get our picture.

We go sit down and have lunch and Jason calms down. A few minutes later DH decides to call his mom to tell her about our sono that we had the previous day. He proceded to tell her that Jason just freaked out becasue of the loud train and she says "you should tell his doc about that, that could be a sign of....of...of, well, just tell his doc" DH is like "a sign of what?" well she wouldn't say but I KNOW she was thinking of Autism. Mind you, she is a Special Ed teacher!!! Jason is not Autistic. There has NEVER been any concern about that by DH or I or his doctor. The entire day I was fuming!!! I tried to keep my mouth shut for DH's sake because I know he just blew off the comment thinking him mom was being silly. But come on!

ok, the entire day, Thomas was goiong back and forth from the train station and I started to notice all the other kids there.....about half of them were covering the ears too! I mentioned it to DH, "look a lot of other kids don't like the loud noise either" He was like "sure" I said "well, it give me peace of mind that Jason is unusual" He was like "Edie, Jasonis perfectly normal, don't worry"
and I know this but why did she have to say that?

luvbug00 replied: Edie, Mya also has VERY sensitve hearing. She covers her ears in the movies and Cries if you speek to loud to her. Like if you yell too close to her ears ( either with disapline or happiness ) she will cry. There is a train that goes arround our mall and she will tell us it's too loud. I think your MIL is being a little too overdramatic.

A&A'smommy replied: no she doesn't have to say that considering that MOST of kids would have done that same thing!!!! I know Alyssa would have FREAKED out

mummy2girls replied: Jenna is the same way. in the car if i put on the radio she flips out if its too loud.. and cries until i turn it down.. she is like that with her noisy toys.. she wont touch them if theya re loud..

kit_kats_mom replied: hrumph! Mother in Laws are my personal enemy....all of them.

I'm sure there is nothing wrong with him Edie. Kids just have their things. Loud noises startle him...he's fine...dare I say....normal.

Katherine despises loud places. They make her really nervous. So she's sensitive, no biggie. Perhaps I won't have to tolerate listening to her music blasting from her room when she's older. I can hope, right?

Keep a pair of earplugs or a few cotton balls in your purse to have on hand if you go someplace that is too loud. Easy peasy

mckayleesmom replied: Well...Russell is petrafied of loud things....Even the lawn mower.....If there is a lawn mower in the neighborhood running...he will just stand there and stair at it....He thinks its going to come get him....And if its close and really loud...he runs and crys.

luvmykids replied: MIL's always seem to find a way to ruin a perfectly good day. Most kids I know are frightened by loud noises, especially in close proximity.

mommyofpremitwins replied: MIL have a wonderful way of ruining a day. Mine always sticks her noise in where it doesn't belong. I think because she is a Special Needs teacher and that is what she is surounded by all day then that is where her brain goes to first. That is probaly why she was thinking that. And if he was autistic you would know by now.

A&A'smommy replied: OH I totally forgot Alyssa is ALWAYS telling me to turn my music down (i know bad mommy) or the other day she has this whistle thing that even she wont blow loud, well her cousin was blowing is extremely loud and before I could tell her to tone it down, alyssa told her to "STOP IT ITS TOO LOUD BANNA" (savannah) and she wont play with her loud toys if they get turned on she sometimes cries!!

ediep replied: Thanks everyone so so so much!!! Really, I feel a lot better about this now. I know my son isn't autistic, but when someone close to you like that makes a suggestion like that....well, It just stuck in my head .

anyway, the garbage truck outside woke Jason up this morning....I call him Superman Ears

My3LilMonkeys replied: I would probably have called her back and yelled at her for ruining your day!!!

My DH has super hearing and so does Madison - she freaks out when the neighbor 3 houses away cuts their grass. It's normal.

hawkshoe replied: Don't let it upset you. Many kids, mine included, don't like loud noises. You mil may be overreacting because she is used to seing children who have problems. Of course she may also be seing some things you are not that have caused her some concern. I am not saying she is right by any means. I think perhaps it would be a good idea to have your dh talk to her and ask her if there are other things she is seeing that would cause her to draw that conclusion.

I have a 4 yo with some problems, none of the major. I have had the autism thing and many others thrown at me over the years by my mil, dh and others. My gut feeling was that my son was normal, just different from his brother. At the request of my dh and at times his mil, I did take my son to many specialist. Know what, all they could find was a speech delay and a slightly low muscle tone. Seeing those Drs. and dealing with my dh and mil's doubts were stressful, but I am thankful that I have "experts" that have told me that my son is perfectly normal.

CantWait replied: To answer your question, because she thinks she's a bloody no-it-all. I can't stand people like that.

My2Beauties replied: Hanna is extremely scared of anything loud. She runs and screams and cries as well. Jason is totally normal! I even remember being scared of loud noises as a child, well until I was probably 7 or 8 years old.

Boys r us replied: Edie, big hugs to you hun! I know that your MIL didn't mean it the way it came out. I'm sure she thinks the world of Jason and had she REALLY thought there was any sort of a problem with Jason, she would have SURELY mentioned it before now! YOU know he's such a normal and happy little boy Edie! I mean, if he were autistic, he would have other symptoms than loud noises bothering him..I can't believe she would jump to such conclusions over THAT! What kid ISN'T scared of loud noises? Braedon for example covers his ears when we flush the toilet..he says the loud noise of it scares him..he does this EVERY SINGLE TIME.


The fact that she's a special ed teacher probably is actually why this is one of the 1st things that would pop out in her mind! I think no matter what field someone specializes in, their mind becomes so wrapped around that field and their training and knowledge of it that their thoughts and analyzations of situation is quite often predictible and 1 tracked..just as your MIL illustrated!

Don't fret over this for another moment!