spacing kids?

jolene555 wrote: hiya!! i dunno if anyone else went through this, but i have a nearly 8 mo, and i have been dying to have another one since i left the hospital. my only fear is that i won't be able to handle 2 little ones at the same time. i was just wondering what y'all did, and how it worked out.

Boys r us replied: Have a baby like mine...and you'll be dying to wait,haa!!
He's a WILD MAN!

We plan to wait until Braedon is 4 to start TTC. I want to give Braedon his chance to be in the spotlight, just like Tanner had. I don't want to short change him or rush him through his toddlerhood in anyway.. with him being the 2nd child, I think it's very important. Not to mention, there's NOWAY I could handle another baby at this moment, Brae keeps me PLENTY busy!
but I do want to become pregnant by the time I'm 30, I have problems with my pregnancies anyhow(I've had two bouts with cervical cancer and my cervix walls aren't as strong as they should be, go into preterm labor) so I don't want to chance any other complications that over 30 pregnancies can sometimes have.

kit_kats_mom replied: We wanted ours between 2-3 years apart. We hit that on the money but we weren't trying. LOL

With my high needs baby I would have literally died if I tried to take on another baby before she became a bit more independent. She's still a bugger but I suspect she will mature a lot between now and December.

booey2 replied: Hi, we waited til Matthew was 2 to start trying and it took us over 8months to get pg with Thomas so they are 3 1/2 years apart. Wasn't sure I wanted that much of a gap but am happy about it now. I have some days even now where I really want another baby but I sit and think about the good and bad times now with the kids and shake my head clear to stop at 2. Don't think I could handle 3 kids but if my some chance we have a 3rd I know God only gives us what we can deal with so I would definitely welcome one.

KatieLeigh79 replied: Well we have been having a rather heated debate on this topic as my little guy is a handful and a half but hubby won't have more then 1 of they are to far apart so I have agreed as of Nov for our cruise that we can start TTC again, going to go back off BC in Oct and see what happens (secretly am hoping it doesnt work though until he is at least 2) but knowing my luck the first time anything happens it will work fine after 3+ years of infertility treatment for the first.

MomToMany replied: I like mine fairly close, so I got PG when the other was about 13-14 months old. I've wanted another since I left the hospital after having Kayla. I want to nurse her a full year before trying for the next one so we don't have to mess with any bottles. DH wants the next one born in February, so that means I would have to conceive next May.

momof2girls replied: We waited 2 yrs to ttc but we did not get pg until 8 yrs later!!! I did not think I was able to get pg, so Kiley was a surprise but a much welcomed one!!!

3xsthefun replied: Well neither of my kids were planned they are almost 4 years apart. I'm hoping when and if we ttc #3 that the baby will be at least 18 months to 2 year apart from Maegan.

Lollie replied: Hubby and I wanted to wait till Bri was at least 6 months old before ttc..but I fell preggo when Bri was just over 2 months old.So when we try for baby number 3 I want my baby number 2 to be maybe about 2 yrs old at least..but we'll see!

mama3x replied: I voted within a year only because that's what happened, not what we had planned to do!

Actually, with DS from my 1st marriage (who's 12 yrs old now) and DD just under 15 months, I was finished with having kids.

Guess DH and my karma had other plans! DD and this one will be 20 months apart.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I voted over 4 years, Spencer was 4 and Emily was 6 when we started trying for baby #3! But our first 2 surprises were 23mths apart. So that means Emily was 14mths when I got pregnant with Spencer.

mummy2girls replied: ZWell because i was still single after having jordan i wanted to wait till i was married. but that didnt happen:) I tried with jenna a little over 2 years after

coasterqueen replied: Well I always wanted our children 2 years apart but it looks like they will be closer to 3 years apart, which is fine with me actually. Kylie is such a high needs baby/child that sometimes I still think I'm crazy for having this one this early, lol. We are hoping another child will help her calm down some more, who knows.

All I know is my sister and I are almost 6 years apart and it's HORRIBLE. We only got along when we were really little. We've only tolerated each other ever since. It's just too many years between us.

5littleladies replied: With my first two I started trying again when Maddie was about 9 months-I had Meg 10 months later. The next time we waited longer-Meg was 2 when we started trying and she and Brianna are nearly 3 years apart. I think my ideal for spacing is 2 years. I don't like the age gap between Meg and Brianna.

Alice replied:
That's pretty much my story too

We tried for 9 years. (Well, maybe "tried" is a bit strong... we never went to IVF or anything) Then we adopted Brian from Korea.

Six months later I was pregnant with Julia. So.. great! Lightening struck.

Well, three years later, lightening struck again, with Kira.

So neither of the girls was "planned"-- just wonderful suprises. We've never had the "should we try again" conversation.