sunday mornings - nursery for Jakob

boyohboyohboy wrote: Jakob is 9 1/2 months old. I have never left him with anyone other then Dh for about an hour this entire time. During church services for the last almost yr, we have held him in the lobby and watched the service thru the tv screen there. But I have felt very disconnected from the service, and the church lately.
I have decided that its time for me to put jake in nursery. But I am almost having panic attacks just thinking about it.
I know he will be fine. but its so hard to leave them for the first time. Its not like I am a first time mom, I have another child, I leave with friends all the time. But I hate the idea of leaving Jake, even for church.
So I am sure this sunday I am going to get nothing out of service, wondering is Jake is ok, but could use some encouragement to go thru with it, and some ideas on how to get thru the hour and half long service with out driving my Dh nuts or running from room crying.....

mckayleesmom replied: Im sure he will be fine....he will probably have a great time with the other kids. You might find yourself liking the little break you get.

luvmykids replied: I know it's tough but if it's any consolation, the people in our church nursery are so fabulous and it's one place none of the kids have any qualms about at all.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Maybe shortly before service is over, you can go to pick him up early, so there are no crowds, and ask the workers questions, just to put your mind at ease. So don't feel bad- he is will be in good hands.

Our oldest just started going to the class with other kids her age, here recently. We always wanted our kids to sit in 'big church' as we call it, with us. Our youngest still sits with us in church though. From the time she was a newbie, she did not want anyone holding her but certain people. We just went with that from then on.

CantWait replied: The nursery is in the church correct. At least you'll be near him, and they will find you if need be. Try not to worry, and enjoy the service.

Brias3 replied: Good for you for trying it out at least! I bet he'll really like being in there with the other kids. To take SOME of the pressure off of you, why don't you plan on leaving him for half the service the first time and see how he does from there. Increase it to cover the whole mass next time if he does well.

Just an idea for you....hope it goes smoothly!

ZandersMama replied: Are you able to just bring your child to the service? In my church there is a nursery if you need it but babies and children are encouraged to go to the service. This way when they are older they are used to it, and dont find it hard to be there for the whole thing.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I had a hard time the first few times I left Andrew in the nursery too. Our church is really small though, and there are never that many kids in there and I always know the worker, so that helps. He always does fine.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Oh Stacy, I know it's so hard to leave them. I think sometimes it's way harder on us than them. Last year when Tanner started Awana I almost cried when he didn't even say goodbye to me. I had to ask for a hug and kiss. Do they have a way of contacting you if he fusses a lot? I know at our church they have a digital box that displays each child's number in case mom or dad are needed. I'm sure he'll be ok. If you feel disconnected, it will be good for your attention to be focused while you are in service. Hope it goes well! Just remember, it will take getting use to, for you and him. After being consistant after awhile, everything to will start to flow smoothly.

Bee_Kay replied: I am sure everything will go just fine..... but I know that no words will ease your apprehension about "the first time".

Let us know how it goes!!

holley79 replied: What about sitting in the nursery a couple of Sundays with him?

ashtonsmama replied: I'm sure you'll have a harder time with it than Jake will.

You're totally normal though. I've only left A with family and one time with the gym nursery, and he did awesome. So I'm sure it'll just take some getting used to Stacy. Just take it slow and just try it this Sunday, I'm sure he'll get used to it, and you too!
KUP.

Bamamom replied: I know how hard this is - we usually take Tripp in with us until he gets fussy and then take him to the nursery if we need too. You might try that - also give yourself permission to go check on him if you get nervous during the service. I've done that a couple of time and it always helps to ease my mind. And it lets the nursery workers know that mama could pop in at any time so they had better be good to my boy!!!!!

I'll be praying for you Sunday!!!