wedding rings - after death

boyohboyohboy wrote: My Dh and I have the most morbid conversations for pillow talk!
But last night we were talking about my wedding rings. He told me he just assumed when I died that I would want me kids to have my rings. I said no, It took me 33 yrs to find the perfect man and get married and I intend to keep them. we both intend to be cremated, so he said, well the man who cremates you is going to keep your rings, he isnt going to throw them in the fire with you..so its best to leave them to the kids..

are you leaving your wedding rings to your kids?

sparkys2boys replied: err,, what ever happened to whispering sweet nothings..lol??? I plan on leaving my rings to family.. yes.

J-rod replied: when my papaw died his ring had to be cut off. my mom had it melted down into a charm for her necklace.


she said one of us gets that, one of us gets her wedding ring, and one of us gets her class ring.

boyohboyohboy replied: I told you we have morbid pillow talk! the other day we were watching some show where this woman kissed her husband good bye in the morgue, well of course my Dh was like that was so gross, I was like well if I was in the hosp and you were present when I took my last breath would you kiss me then? he says, well NO, I said why not I was still warm, and he said, my vows say, "till death we do part!"

SO i play acted mad, and we had such a good time talking about would we kiss each other after we were dead???

are we a strange couple?

luvbug00 replied: Mya will get my ring. No matter how many other children i have.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I would want our girls to have my ring, right now I only have one wedding set but if I die before one or both get married then I would want to pass down my current set to the one who gets married first.

luvmykids replied: I'm sure I will but I don't know who will get it...unless I somehow have a different ring (which I doubt because I love mine) and give the current one to someone when they get married.

TheOaf66 replied: I have already told Jennie I want cremation but she won't spread my ashes where I want but I will work on that, I don't know what she would do with my ring, if I go first she will probably keep it somewhere and hopefully still wear hers gotta keep all the other guys away

boyohboyohboy replied: my dh told me he wants his ashes scattered on our carpet so I have to pick up after him one more time!

TheOaf66 replied:
I like that one

I want mine spread over the Demolition Derby pit that I drive every year

C&K*s Mommie replied:

As for my DH, we have not spoken about this. But I would want to keep his ring, and wear it on a chain. It fits my thumb and still has lots of wiggle room, but if there was any way to have it resized to fit another finger I would, and wear it proudly in memory of him.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Yes Kaitlin will get mine, if we were to have more kids I have two wedding rings, and engagement ring and a wrap so I could split them.

on a side not when I attended a funural 4 years ago for a friend she had just gotten married 3 weeks before and her husband was wearing them on a chain around his neck. I was sweet and sad. I lot it then.

J-rod replied: well i told stephanie she wont have to worry cause there wont be enough of me left to worry about. for years i have had dreams that i die in a firey car crash.

MyLuvBugs replied: ROFLMAO

That sure is some romantic pillow talk there Stacy!

WOW!


Ummmmm..... I don't know. I guess if they want it they can have it. But I've notice from past family death experience....jewlery can cause some REALLY heated arguments. Especially amongst daughters. So, I'd probably have to write something in our will about the rings and who they go to and the like. Just to keep the peace between the girls.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well since I was married before.. I kept the rings from Brittany's Dad. Brittany will get those.. and Tanner or his wife I assume will get the ones from his Daddy.

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DansMom replied: I will pass mine on---the band was designed and crafted for us by an artist, and the diamond in it came from a ring that belonged to George's father. If George goes before me, I will want to put his ring with mine in a keepsake box for Daniel.

My mother has the very simple wedding band that belonged to my great grandmother, whom I never met because she died in childbirth along with her eighth child. It's a magical feeling of connectedness to hold that ring and look at the initials engraved on it.

lisar replied: I have my moms engagment ring and my sister has her wedding band. As far as my rings go. I am not sure I have never thought about that. I will be burried so I think I might just burried with them and with my mothers ring.

Jamison'smama replied: I am wearing my grandmother's wedding ring as I type this. I will not be buried in the rings--they really discourage people from doing that due to the history of grave robbers. They didn't even ask my parents about the jewelry from my grandmother, they just took off her earrings, necklace etc. and presented it to the family after the grave-side service.

gr33n3y3z replied: My Mom left me her beautiful diamond wedding set when she passed on
Those will be the girls each of my girls will get a ring when I feel the time is right. And not when I die either. As for mine not sure maybe I will give those to the boys

redchief replied: If you're to be cremated the director will remove all jewelry prior to cremation and give it to the executor.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Yes I would leave mine to our kids. I still have my great grandmothers and my grandmothers as well.

On a side note...Troy's ashes will not get spread anywhere, and I will keep his wedding ring with me. I will probably also wear mine still because it is sentimental.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: My grandfather was cremated... my grandmother bought a mausoleum box for him, herself, and my mother... it cost mucho dinero... but is very nice... and inside a building... with 24 hour surveillance... she has his ring, but she wants to have it added into the "vault", along with hers, once she dies... so that there is no fighting... she just wants them displayed in front of the jade boxes

ETA - here's the webpage of the Cemetary... if you scroll down, the last picture you can see the glass "vaults"... my grandfather is in one of those. If you enlarge it, you can see one of the jade "boxes" or urns, if you will...fairly similar to my grandfather's.

http://www.beechwoodcemetery.com/en/Cremation_29.html

PrairieMom replied:
okay. now thats a good one.