what do you guys think? - if the woman purposes?

luvbug00 wrote: Ok My friend has been in a serious relationship for a while 6 years or more. She wants to purpose to him. I personally would be hesitant because he may take to offence that he's not the one asking and believe people may think less of him. What do you all think? should she ask or wait for him???

mammag replied: I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong with a woman asking but I never would have. I could see a guy taking offense to that I guess....it all depends on how their relationship is. I'd just let her decide on her own I suppose

A&A'smommy replied: Yeah I think I would be a little hesitant too.. I don't think there is anything wrong with it.. but yeah she has to make her own decision!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I would wait, but that's just me. Actually, I would never be in a 6 year relationship without being married. It better be going somewhere by then. But, if they are young I can see how dating 6 years wouldn't be so bad.

stanleygirl replied: I don't see the big deal, but I know for a fact my hubby would not have accepted a proposal from me, that's just the way he is. He would have seen it as an insult actually, so I can see why she would be hesitant.
Maybe she could bring the subject up somehow to see what his opinion is on it??

redchief replied: I don't think it'd go well. But maybe that's just the silly male in me.

Kaitlin'smom replied: have they talked about marriage?

luvbug00 replied: yes, but he has started to go back to his teenage years and he is going out a little more. ( which is like once a week at most) And she want's the ball to start rolling already.

redchief replied:
That makes all the difference in the world. She almost definitely should NOT propose. In fact, if she does it's a real good possibility that he'll back off the relationship even further. He'll likely feel he's being pressured into "getting moving".
Just MHO.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I agree with Ed. First of all, I think she should think twice about wanting to marry someone who is going out all the time and wanting to return to his youth. If they do it together, or he goes out once in awhile, fine...but maybe he's going out all the time to see what else is out there.

I think women can definitely propose, but for your friend's sake, it sounds more like she only wants to propose because she's afraid of losing him. That will scare a man into running. Not a good reason to get married.

Maybe tell her to stick to tradition and wait for him to ask.

luvbug00 replied: Well , I told her and she agrees to wait!! so yipee my work there is done!!

Jaime replied: Honestly i dont see the probelm with the women asking a man, i mean yeah people have believed for years that the man should ask the women but lets face it things have changed alot..lol i just think its great when people care that much for each other.

mckayleesmom replied: I wouldn't judge anyone for it,,,but personally I like the boy asks girl tradition. She sounds like she is trying to pressure him into doing something hes not ready to. And does she possibly think that by proposing that he won't go out with his friends anymore?