whos driving your baby? - who do you let drive baby around?

grasshopper wrote: Would appreciate to hear moms opinion on this...

We have a 1yr old. My sister-in-law would love to have him with her driving around doing errands. My husband wouldn't mind, I however, am not comfortable someone else driving him (family or not). My husband doesn't relate to how I feel. I realise that when he gets older I won't feel as strongly.

Would love to see how you moms feel about this (given his age). would you let others take your baby out driving without you? thanks



thanks for the immediate replies! I could say the s-i-l is in 39 and has a 14yr old and 12 yr old, but doesn't make me change how I feel.

For those moms that feel as I do, do your husbands feels the same as you?

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Absolutely NOT!! I have a four year old DD and a 3 mos old DS. And neither of them are allowed to go out "driving" or running errands with anyone other than myself or DH. Trust your instincts on this one. It is YOUR child.

amynicole21 replied: No one but DH or myself have ever driven her anywhere. When she was about 9 months old, my Dad and step-mom came to visit. They thought nothing of planning a trip to Miami with Sophia where they would have to drive with her in the car for 4.5 hours! This was out of the question, obviously, but they really never understood my reasoning.

I don't think I would feel comfortable letting someone drive her around unless it was necessary... errands do not seem necessary in my opinion There are too many uncontrollable factors when someone is driving... it's not like when someone is watching her at daycare or in their home where there is a degree of safety and security. I don't think you are out of line at all

momof2girls replied: The only person that drives my kids around are me and DH this is bad but I dont even like them drive with the grandparents cause I dont like how they drive, they are old and in lala land. haha.

alice&arik replied: My brother and SIL have taken Arik, but it is only if they were babysitting for me. They are real safety nuts anyway. And his grandma has taken him when she had him for the weekend, and that was a worry, she isn't really up to date on kid stuff, but she isn't that old either. And my sister took him for the weekend, but she only drove to her house and back, but that is more than an hour drive, but she has her own 6 month old, so she knows what she is doing. I guess if I trust the person enough it is ok. But that is my opinion. I always put the car seat in for whoever takes Arik, just because I know how it goes. My sister that has her baby still has me put the car seats in for her and do the straps...she calls me a pro.

TeagansMom609 replied: Im not comfortable with people driving my 3 month old daughter around. Although if someone is doing me the favor of watching her while I work for example I cant tell them they HAVE to stay in and put their life on hold. So its a tough situation. Although my MIL is the only one who watches her during the week but if it was a friend or someone besides her I probly wouldnt let them. My husband was in his brothers car the other day who is only 21 and he backed into a parked car with the baby in the car. I was pissed! I told hy hub I dont want the baby in his brothers car ever again!

kit_kats_mom replied: My mom got a carseat for her car and has picked K up from daycare for me or taken her out of the house so that I can reclaim my sanity a few times. I wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone else driving her around though.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I let my sitter drive her when she needs to go someplace and her DH is not home to watch the kids, I dont expect her to stay cooped up all week with her 2 kids and my daughter, I know she would go nuts, but really she does not take her out that often maybe once a week. I also have let my sister when she is watching her for me or when DH was in the hospital one sunday she came and got her for me. But usually its me or DH driving....me more with going to the sitters 5 days a week. It really depends on you and your comfort with the person.

ediep replied: I don't think anyone except myself or DH have driven with Jason. Maybe my sister once while she was babysitting over night. Trust your instincts! I would be hesitant to let anyone else run errands with Jason

coasterqueen replied: Hmm, I'm trying to think. Our sitter takes Kylie lots of places and even across the state line to go to Magic House and the Zoo. My mom has picked her up from daycare, but I guess that's about all.

lsjulee replied: Last time, my sitter too would bring my kids around. Even when ds was before a year old. Tho I didn't feel comfortable with it, but I'd to close both eyes. Well I couldn't say much cos I'd implied to give the trust to my sitter when I put my children with her.

Now, I don't think anyone would volunteer to drive ds around. He is too much to handle.

Mom2Boyz replied: My Mom has had to drive Conner somewhere once, but that is the only time he's been in a vehicle without me or my fiance driving.

5littleladies replied: I guess I'm in the minority here. I let my mom and some of my close friends drive the girls around if the situation calls for it. But then again-I have 3 kids and maybe I'm just more used to it. I would say go with your instincts-If you aren't comfortable with it then don't do it.

kimberley replied: i am not comfortable with DH driving alone with her, so extended family would definitely be out of the question. i guess i am overprotective a little but i would rather be safe than sorry. how incredibly awful would i feel if something happened and i wasn't there for my baby! DH thinks i don't trust him but that really isn't the issue... it is more that i feel it is my job to be there for her and protect her. besides, what fun is it for a baby to be dragged in and out of a car all day? i know Jade gets very cranky when we have her out running errands for long periods of time. and i still get nervous when the boys are out with their dad, grandpa or grandma and they are 6 and 7.5 yo!

aspenblue1 replied: Isabella rides with me, DH, my mom and MIL since they have to pick her up from the babysitters.

Boys r us replied: For the most part, Braedon only rides with DH or I, but when my parents or my inlaws watch him for us, I can't very well expect them not to go about their normal business and if that includes going to the grocery store or out to dinner..then that doesn't freak me out at all..after all, they drove my husband and I around when we were babies..and we survived. Bottom line is that I wouldn't leave my child in the care of someone whom I didn't have enough trust in to take proper precautions with him while driving, in the first place. Now Tanner, he's 8 and he is constantly spending the night and going here or there and sometimes that means another child's parents will be driving him..and that again goes back to the samething as with Braedon, he would never be allowed to spend the night or be in the care of another child's parents if I didn't trust them with his care!

A&A'smommy replied: Well my SIL has drove with alyssa in the car and she is 26 with a two and three year old. BUT we were in a bind and REALLY needed someone to watch her for us. Also my mother has driven with her in the car but only once without me in the car my mom is a good driver too. Now as far as this I would go with your instincts and just say no your the mommy and its much better for everyone if you just go with how you feel! (((HUGS)))

My2Beauties replied: I let Hanna ride with grandparents and her Great Aunt! They are all really safe with her. I let them all know how to use the car seat correctly, grandmas and grandpas have their own car seat. You shouldn't drive yourself bonkers worrying that much! After all, she has two kids of her own and they survived right? Believe me, I don't think your SIL would do anything to harm your baby!