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luvbug00 wrote: basically i made a big mistake the other night ( unforgivable really) and so me and lars aren't on the best of terms right now. He started asking for me to get on the pill which i delayed for a bit ..So you all know how i had schdualed the appt. well i told lars and asked him to come..which he can't. and so we had lunch at 12 somthing and said nothing. Well he just wrote saying not to schdual it yet.. "we need to talk"...what does that mean? what is going threw his head ? I'm confused.. men are confusing!!

lovemy2 replied: I am confused - was the mistake not going on the pill or something else???

gr33n3y3z replied: lol Nads
tell him to get on the ball

holley79 replied: Men are very confusing.

grapfruit replied: You're right they're super confusing (sorry guys, but it's true). Don't fret about it too much, usually you end up thinking the very worse thing and he'll be like (i.e. clueless) that he was making you think that. (get all that?) Basically, what I'm trying to spit out is you're probably thinking whatever he has to say is worse then what he really has to say and he's going around thinking "la la la" and not realizing your freting. Better?

Oh, and you (and I for that matter) really should schedule your appointment ANYWAY (can't hurt), so I'd go ahead and do that. And I PROMISE I'll do the same. (so then you know you're not alone, since I know you don't like it anyway).

Basically what that word jumble meant,

Calimama replied: I have no clue, but I know when DH says "I need to talk" in my mind, I take it to a whole new level and I make it 10 times worse than it really is. Hang in there.

MoonMama replied:
I'm the same way.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: Hope everything goes ok.

Twelve Volt Man replied:
I love doing that to my wife. I'll call her and tell her that when I get home from work, we need to talk. She immediately thinks the worst. Then, when I get home, I ask her to sit down. She panics, then gets mad when I only wanted to talk about where we're going to eat dinner.

redplaydoh replied:
You're mean!!!!

grapfruit replied:
Ok, that was like EXACTALLY what I was trying to say. How come you could spit it out so easily?

So Nadia how'd it go?

luvbug00 replied: not well lets just say he's really mad.

moped replied:
I guess I don't understand....
he wants you on BC but doesn't want to appt?????? Help us understand

grapfruit replied:
I'm sort of lost too.

But don't fret too much, Nadia. Every relationship has to go through the dark room before it can become a beautiful portrait.

holley79 replied:
Why do men do this? Shawn does the same to me. I want to give him a big ole wallop upside the head.

luvbug00 replied: he wanted to talk because apperantly he doesn't even want to sleep together right now. I dunno.

Kaitlin'smom replied: kinda sounds like what ever you did really made him stop and think.

luvbug00 replied: What i did was not good. yes. but i think he is blowing it wayyyy out of proportion as far as the extent of the punishment he's dealing.

Mommy2Isabella replied: I hope whatever happend gets solved and you guys can get back to eachother soon!

moped replied:
Well do you think he will settle with time?

Kaitlin'smom replied: with out knowing what you did its hard to give adice, but I hope it settles down and you can work it out.

moped replied:
Right!

Cece00 replied:
Do I have this correct-

You were supposed to go on birth control. You did not. You also did not tell him you werent on birth control. Now he knows you arent on birth control & doesnt want to sleep with you.

Is that right?

moped replied:
Hey you are good!

I think we are on to something!

luvbug00 replied: Actually..no.

Basically Brad overheard me talking to my friend karla about the "lars going to the millitary" inncident

http://forums.parentingclub.com/index.php?...504&hl=military

Lars didn't know brad knew about the want to change carrers. brad doesn't know about lars's emotions at the time.(he was feeling a little low. ) well brad and lars got into words the other night and brad threw the incodent in Lars's face. Lars was livid that brad found out about it and is mad at me. He said to halt the appointment and BC because we needed to talk. which ended up being harsh..durring today things are getting a little better but still very halted

moped replied: I am quite certain he will come around and everything will be good soon!

MoonMama replied:

CantWait replied: I hate to say it Nadia, but Lars sounds like a childish control freak. It seems that if things don't go his way, he treats you like a child by grounding you.

msoulz replied:
Without knowing either of you, I would agree with this at best. Isn't that exactly what women are accused of doing - withholding as a punishment?

It's really unusual for men to not want any regardles of the circumstances - not to be negative but I would be concerned that your talking is not over.

Forgive the stereotypes - I know we don't all fall into them, just thinking in generalities.